Psychologists are sure that over the years it becomes more difficult to improve the friendly relations. So, if in kindergarten was to share an afternoon snack enough to get the new companion, then already at adult age it is necessary to resort to small cunnings and the strategic courses to catch the new friend.
It is required to you
- – addresses of accounts of an object of sympathy on social networks
- – information (including informal character) about a sympathy object
Instruction
1. Try to observe the young man to whom you plan to offer friendship. In its circle of trust for certain there will be people whose traits of character are appreciated most of all by an object of your sympathy. Thanks to such analysis it will become clear what qualities the young man appreciates in people to what environment he gives preference. At the same time, it is necessary to pay attention to all nuances, beginning from education and the social status of close friends of the young man, and finishing them with external data.
2. Conduct developing attack, having observed a sympathy object on social networks. Be extremely accurate and remember that some social networks "give" curious users, fixing their stay on the page a mark in the column "Guests". If you want to leave the interest in the young man in secret, manage those social resources where lists of guests are absent or ask for permission of friends for a while to use their accounts.
3. Exchange with the young man phones and the addresses of accounts in the systems of exchange of fast messages and social networks. Such step will allow you to become closer to an object of the sympathy and always to stay with it in touch.
4. Offer an object of the sympathy lovely friendly entertainment which in your opinion will be to the taste to it. So, the young man can be called on a cup of coffee, at cinema or on walk in the fresh air. Not superfluous will be to think up leisure, relying on his preferences. For example, if the young man is fond of active holiday and not sport, then appropriate will be to thrust with him upon morning jog or slow bicycle walk after work. Consent to such friendly leisure will become the first step to adjustment of close friendly relations. After time spent together in an informal situation the young man will perceive you differently even if he itself will not pay attention to it.
5. Pay attention to what is told by the young man during depressive and gloomy mood. Degree of his frankness will depend on lines of its character, but if you are able to convince the interlocutor of sincere interest, then be sure – in 10 minutes it will lay out all troubles of the life as on spirit. But this way will work only if at you with the young man at least the friendly relations or close contact on the professional soil were already outlined. In general, if the young man begins to share with you experiences, it already speaks about close and close contact.
6. Start a conversation that you experience certain communicative difficulties with the young man and it is difficult to you to get the friendly relations. Continue a conversation by the fact that list those qualities which you appreciate in people. Finish the thought with a diplomatic phrase that the young man makes an impression of the person with the high moral system of values that at you much in common. At the end of a monologue ask a question of whether into its account the friendship can turn out between you.