There are many people who hesitate to begin a conversation with unfamiliar even if you want it. For example, the guy liked the girl. Or, on the contrary, to the girl the young man obviously attracted. It would seem what it is simpler – to approach, get acquainted / But "legs do not bear", and language as if sticks to a throat. D not there is a wish to start talking, draw attention, and you can force yourself. Covers fear: and suddenly I will run into sharp refusal, I will fall into an awkward situation? How to overcome fear of acquaintance?
Instruction
1. If you the timid, impressionable person, really it is sometimes hard for you to force itself to break others personal space. Here the Internet can help very much! Find to yourself several forums to liking, become their permanent participant. Correspond in pms with those forumites who are interesting to you. Especially if they belong to an opposite sex. It you will prepare yourself for the next stage – transition from virtual acquaintances to real.
2. Resort to auto-suggestion. As often as possible repeat to yourself: "If I start talking to unfamiliar guy (or to the unfamiliar girl), nothing terrible happens". Try to convince yourself: if to begin a conversation with quiet, polite tone, then will answer you, most likely, likewise, but will not laugh or "will sharply send away".
3. Try to put more often yourself in a situation when you want you do not want, and it is necessary to talk to strangers! You ask to explain you the road (how to reach some establishment or a local attraction, for example), specify the goods price at the seller, the schedule of bus flights at the ticket clerk, etc. Even if you are not going to buy or go nothing somewhere at present. These are some kind of trainings. Do not neglect them.
4. Do not torment yourself with thoughts at all: "And how I look now?", "And what impression I make?". To anything good they do not lead, only enhance your shyness. Instead inspire in yourself: "I'm fine, everything is all right".
5. Very much some interesting hobby, a hobby helps. The person who is feeling like the expert, especially the master in some business, involuntarily begins to feel also self-confidence. For example, the silent, timid girl perfectly embroiders. If she exposes models of the creativity at a forum of needlewomen, for certain will receive the mass of enthusiastic responses, praises. And it will raise its self-assessment that is very important for overcoming fear of acquaintances.
6. If nothing helps, here not to do without the address to the qualified psychologist.