The fear to lose darling, can significantly spoil the family relations. How to get off the notions of compulsion?
Instruction
1. Most likely, the fear to lose darling, is based on past bad experience. And the person is afraid again to endure pain and disappointment. Leave the past in the past. These are absolutely new relations. Trust the spouse.
2. Never allow to depend entirely yourself on the soulmate. Develop the independence. You learn to solve the problems alone. You should not wait from the spouse that he on the first call will come to the rescue to you and will carry out all desires, to satisfy all your requirements. The helplessness for show yet held nobody.
3. Being completely dissolved in the relations, it is possible to lose own identity. Do not allow it. Each person has to feel own I, have personal interests, a hobby. Even when life seems settled, do not stop work on yourself, test in something new, fill the life with new impressions. Bothers to communicate with the interesting, advanced person never.
4. The fear to lose darling, can be based on diffidence. Here it is necessary to work properly over itself. If you have complex concerning appearance, take care of the own life, sports activities, the healthy nutrition, a healthy lifestyle solves many problems connected with appearance. Also correctly picked up hairstyle and clothes will emphasize advantages and will hide shortcomings. Attend special courses on self-improvement, read corresponding literature.
5. Do not carp at yourself. Communicating with the second half, you do not seek to be ideal, you do not reproach yourself with what was not so told or made. Any person is capable to be mistaken. Your spouse the same imperfect person capable to understand and perceive you such person who you are.
6. In the family relations, there has to be an ease. Having seized the darling with shouts that you cannot live without him, the wrong approach. The stronger to try to attach the person to itself, the you will be stronger than him to push away. Therefore it is so important to provide to the soulmate personal space and to allow to find time for the interests.
7. The most important you love yourself. Without it it is impossible to learn to love other people.