To overpersuade parents, especially if they resolved that is necessary for their child and that is not present, a difficult task for the son or the daughter. The father and mother are more senior and are more skilled therefore they are sincerely sure that they understand any question better. How children can convince parents that to their point of view it is necessary to listen?
How to behave with parents
Parents worry for children, try to save them from troubles, and for this reason often hold down their initiative, resort to command tone, the bans. Naturally, it is not pleasant to children, quarrels, the conflicts can begin (especially at teenage age).
Main rule: any scandals, emotions! It is possible to understand discontent, irritation of the teenager that parents persistently treat it, as to the juvenile silly little chap who without their sensitive supervision is not capable of anything. Nevertheless, if it is rude, row, put forward ultimatums (for example: "Do not allow to make that, I will escape from the house!"), the result will turn out opposite. Parents will only be approved in a thought that their child still unreasonable, does not know what it is necessary to him, and it is not necessary to pay attention to his whims. Or will lead to the psychologist. At worst the father and mother will strongly become angry about the son or the daughter because of what the situation in family will become even more intense. Do you want the father and mother to treat you seriously, attentively listened to your opinion? Then behave as it befits the serious person.
How to build a conversation with parents
Be polite, you speak quietly and agrumentirovanno. Try to convince parents not emotions, but arguments. Choose suitable time when they holidaymakers, in good mood to start a conversation. At once transfer a conversation to the constructive course, for example, having begun with words: "The father and mother, I understand that you want to me good, worry for me. But …" And it is quiet, politely explain to them why, in your opinion, it is necessary to arrive in any given situation exactly as it is represented to you correct, but not as parents solved for you. Even if you will not manage to overpersuade the father and mother at once, such conversation will be anyway useful. Parents will see that you, insisting on the, are not capricious and are not malicious, and will treat your words more seriously.
You can refer to your peer who stands well with parents. For example: "You praise Kolya, and the father and mother allow to do him that. And anything terrible: studies still well, did not get to the bad company …" Such argument can work on the father and mother. It is possible to resort also to such psychological reception: to remind parents about their own teenage years. Say, then grandmothers and grandfathers forbade a lot of things to them too, and it for certain was not pleasant to them.