The action plan for this problem has to begin with a question – and whether really it is necessary to you? Others loaf always seems better and more tasty while it is a stranger. Whether you are sure that this man is necessary to you so that you are ready to put between him and his wife?
Instruction
1. Let's begin with the fact that to part man with the wife if he does not want it, it is unreal. Yes, he can say to you that he lives with it only for the sake of children, does not love it and with it has no sex, but, most likely, it is a lie. Just he says you what you want to hear. So, for a start make sure that its bad relations with the wife – objective reality. As you will do it, you will be prompted by imagination. If it works, get the friendly relations with someone from her girlfriends. The spy in a camp of the enemy is always useful.
2. Become it first of all not the mistress, but the girlfriend. Talk to him about everything that concerns him. Attentively listen to him and never condemn. Do not arrange hysterics, do not press on him, do not force to divorce. Let him know that with you he can always have a rest soul – namely it the man from the family back waits. If the wife saws, presses and condemns him, he will feel a difference soon.
3. When he begins to trust you, he will tell about the family problems. And here for certain it will want to sling mud properly at his wife to push him to the decision necessary to you. But do it carefully, and it is better – at all do not do because darling can regard it as malignity. It is better to mention unostentatiously the strengths and those advantages which he will find with you.
4. Be not obsessed with it. If the man knows that he at you – the only light in a window, he will do nothing that to change something. And what for? And so everything suits it. But if around the crowd of admirers who adore you curls and call in marriage, it can force it to work. It again if it has really bad relations with the wife, and he really loves you.
5. If you are not afraid, you can try to turn a situation cardinally: tell it that you marry. It is necessary to do it how between you there will be strong friendly relations. If you really are dear to it – he can choose you. But can remain with the wife, and then you will understand that she after all is dearer to it. Anyway, try. Even if at you nothing will turn out, it is all the same will be great result, - you will cease to spend time for the unpromising man.