The person – the most improbable creation on our planet. He manages not only to be the certain and unique personality, but also to live in society which establishes the rules and orders. Living among other people, the person gradually begins to depend on their behavior and, often, on opinion on himself. For this reason, receiving forest and pleasant assessment of the personality, to us it becomes warmer and more joyful at heart.
To receive qualitative compliments very pleasantly. We become more favorable to the person who noticed our advantages. But correctly and in due time to pay compliments very not easy. Really, if not to guess with assessment, quantity or the moment told, good intentions can be apprehended as insincere flattery, it is possible to something binding. Response can go already at the level of subconsciousness – negative and abrupt reply, mistrust, desire to stop a conversation.
But how to prevent such situation? How to learn that the words told by you will be accepted correctly, having come into contact and having softened a situation? For this purpose it is necessary to know several simple principles based first of all on human psychology:
- Feel mood of the interlocutor. If he is concentrated over a problem, important for it, or is alarmed because of something, then the unexpected compliment will bring down it from a thought and will only bring into irritation. But it does not mean that at bad mood we do not want to hear pleasant about ourselves. On the contrary, sometimes sudden warm words can change a condition of the person polarly. But for this purpose it is necessary to feel well the interlocutor, to see his mood and to foresee its reaction!
- To point to advantages of those things which the person values and of which is proud – most simply and the operating compliment! All people in soul children and if the child constantly carries a toy in hands – he will be proud, having heard about it the words of delight and surprise. As well at adults: learning the interests of the person, you will be able easily to approach his heart through its hobby or hobby. The main thing, it not to go too far in quantity of compliments in a conversation and to do them sincerely, but not for the sake of any benefit.
- You remember: it is necessary to pay compliments by a steady, quiet voice. Also be ready to prove your opinion – you should not be scattered by words without the bases, essential on that. From outside it will look too unnaturally. Be honest, and you will understand what warm words your interlocutor wants to hear!