Sometimes it happens so that after unfortunate marriage of the spouse leave not friends at all. Neither the general children, nor years of once happy life – nothing can force them to cease to be angry at each other. How to find quiet life to the woman on whom the ex-husband conferred responsibility for crash of their relations?
Instruction
1. Marriage is built by two. If it did not turn out, it is senseless to blame someone one though it is quite widespread situation. Sometimes it is complicated by the fact that the ex-husband tries to deprive the wife of communication with the general children and the rights for jointly acquired property. In that case it is necessary to try not to give vent to emotions and to quietly defend that it is necessary to you under the law.
2. Employ the competent lawyer. That the ex-husband spoke, you have equal rights, especially concerning guardianship over children. The expert will be engaged in settling of legal formalities, and here psychologically you will be able to help yourself.
3. Do not allow to intimidate yourself. Sometimes the abandoned men behave quite aggressively. If you are threatened openly, do not allow to conduct normal life, terrorize calls, firmly explain that do not intend to communicate in such mode and demand, but not just you ask, to leave you alone. Be not afraid to be impolite, when it comes to your sincere health.
4. If the man raised a hand against you, do not wait for a trouble - ask for the help in police. Let the saying "Beat, means loves" will remain in far medieval times. Try to overcome feeling of helplessness, will surely come to the rescue of you. You are not silent, preferring to heat the offense in tears.
5. If you repeatedly fell a victim of the husband tyrant, even after the divorce will let moral injuries know about yourself. You will be supported by free telephone hotlines of the crisis centers which exist in many large cities. Also individual consultation of the psychologist will be not superfluous.
6. Sometimes men, protecting the vanity, try to prove that women – the pathetic creations not capable to survive without support of the stronger sex. Prove that it not so. If earlier you did not work, be engaged in search of the suitable place. Let salary first will be low: the main thing is to take the first step to independence.
7. Safely walk in new life. Leave offenses in the past. Experience of a divorce whatever painful it appeared made you stronger. You will surely meet the person with whom you will be happy.