They say that love - as an axiom, and it does not need to be proved. But it does not work when lovers are divided by hundreds of kilometers. If all communication happens only online, it is difficult to girl to understand where the real feeling and where only a smilie. In such situations she can begin to doubt the guy, demanding from him proofs of the love.
Why the girl demands that proved her the love at distance?
That the guy could develop for himself the optimum action plan, he needs to understand the reasons of such requirement first of all:
- The love in itself at distance causes the skeptical relation in many people. And even if the girl for all 100% is sure of mutual love and of safe development of these relations, for certain it has girlfriends or acquaintances who directly or indirectly incite it against the guy. In such situations to prove to girlfriends and acquaintances that they are not right, and most to become surer, the girl demands from the guy of proofs of his love and serious intentions.
- The love at distance often dies away, without gaining any development (from here and the skeptical relation). Therefore, demanding proofs of love, the girl first of all wants to see that the guy not just tells beautiful words, but also tries in all ways to reduce this distance, to make so that the relations had a development. She wants to see that the guy prepares for moving or assists in moving to it.
- Personal features of the girl. The low self-assessment, thirst of constant attention, the increased emotional excitability, jealousy belong to such features. If the girl had an experience of the sad relations with the guy earlier, then and it leaves the mark on the current relations at distance.
To find out what reason of requirements of proofs of love, it is necessary to talk much to the girl about it and to listen carefully that she tells. As they say, the devil is in details.
How to prove the love at distance?
Today the relations at distance attract interest of psychologists. Having conducted numerous researches among several hundreds of couples, psychologists developed recommendations which will help the guy to prove the love at distance:
- The guy has to try to communicate with the girl every day. And it have to be not messages in messengers and not SMS, and a talk in Skype or by phone. Thus the guy shows to the girl that she takes the important place in his daily life.
- To do something together, despite distance. For example, it is possible to have supper together, by means of the same Skype, at the same time to watch the movie and to share impressions about it online, etc. The lovers living together spend the most part of time not on a talk, and on a joint vremyaprirovozhdaniye. And thus the guy shows that he is ready to it.
- Always to stay in touch. When there is no an opportunity to see every day, it is important to keep in emotional connection. For this purpose it is enough to share the small victories and pleasures, emotions and experiences.
- To try to find common interests and to constantly discuss them. First, thus there will be more things which are connected by both partners who were fallen in love, secondly, during the hobby occupations will keep thinking about each other, and thirdly, will always be what to discuss and share emotions.
- To remember all important dates and to put about them reminders on phone. Thus the guy will not miss important day and will be able to prepare and send a small present or an otkrytochka in advance.
- To discuss joint plans for the future. The girl has to understand that she all life will not wait for the guy at the smartphone, and once their relations will gain development.
If, despite all efforts of the guy, the girl is not happy and demands more and more, then it is worth thinking of sincerity and expediency of such relations: "Sharp-sightedly only one heart. Eyes you will not see the most important".