Many parents claim that there are only two approaches to education of children – strict and vsedozvolyayushchy. This absolutely incorrect statement.
The child can be brought up both in severity, and in permissiveness. If constantly to subject the child to any punishments and repressions, then it will not result in good. He can nurse on you a grievance, become isolated. Moreover, he in the future with the children can have big problems and misunderstanding. But also it is impossible to permit everything.
If not to limit the child in general in anything, then he will become careless and spoiled. It will disturb him both at school, and at communication with children, and then and at work. Besides, the child can think that his parents simply do not want and do not wish to be engaged in his education, and all neglect. Too it is good not to eat it. It is impossible to go into these two extremes, it is necessary to combine both approaches, then it will be simpler to bring up the child, and this education will not do much harm to his future life and mentality at all.
It is possible to validate this judgment a set of cases and examples. To each of us in life has the luck to observe other families, probably. And many of us had the same impression about strict parents. Those families where children are raised liberally seem to us more attractive. It is possible to call such families a standard and to hold up them as an example another.
You should not begin to cultivate discipline of the child since childhood. At this age children do not understand it, they are quiet, and many serious troubles cannot do. Babies need to give love, tenderness and care. And here it is necessary to develop disciplinary skills at one-year-old age. Right now the child begins to move, learn actively the world, and often does it or it is non-standard, or is too active. Therefore it is very important to consider all specific features of your child at education.
Nobody argues that there are such children angels at whose education it is not necessary to make many efforts. But there are also children with character. That's it with such there are also problems. To force the child to obey, it is not necessary to swear and shout at him, especially to beat. It is just necessary to impart to him skill to listen to remarks of adults. Then the child will quickly realize that he did, and it will not do much harm to his mentality.
It is important to remember that enormous tragedies will never arise. That awful the two-year-old kid can do? Correctly, anything! Therefore it is not necessary to seek to eliminate at once all defects of the child, and to cultivate his discipline gradually and step by step!