The conflict - a nightmare or the benefit? How to treat it and how with honor to get out of a difficult situation? How to use the conflict for the solution of the imminent problem?
Psychologists say that the conflicts between people are inevitable therefore you should not be afraid of them. It is better to be prepared for this situation in advance and to try to pass most correctly it. Those who are familiar with the section of psychology under the name "Conflictology", know that sometimes by means of the conflict it is possible to solve long ago the imminent problem about which the parties persistently are silent.
Useful will be to explain that all conflicts happen from misunderstanding. Each person judges moderately the knowledge, the outlook and the general outlook. And often our concepts do not coincide with concepts of other people. If to ask you - as you understand a saying "Nedosol - on a table, peresol - on a back"? About nedosol everything is clear, it about a saltcellar on a kitchen table. And about a back? One will tell that salt in the form of sweat will be emitted on a back, and another will decide that for the put too much salt food it is possible and to be hit on a spine. These are, by the way, real answers of two people who sat together at dinner and very often communicate among themselves.
Therefore it is worth remembering that the conflicts are an obligatory component of our life. Especially as often near us there are people who just adore carping, rowing, making a claim from scratch, and it is necessary to be protected from them somehow. And also it is useful also most to protect sometimes the rights, even by means of the conflict. However all life it is impossible to be in this state, sooner or later it is necessary to be reconciled, and it is correct. How here to be? In our rational time it is possible to apply one very logical way. If you have a conflict with the loved one, agree with it in advance that any situation when you do not understand each other, you will estimate in points - for example, from one to ten. And the first who will decide to start talking let will ask on how many points another will estimate your conflict. If he gives your quarrel the highest mark - it is time to address the expert. But, as a rule, it happens seldom. Let's take for an example 7 points. And here it is quite possible to ask: "And what at us in other 3 points"? And there can be a miracle. The partner will begin to remember that good that is between you, and the negative automatically will begin to decrease, the conflict will begin to seem not such important any more. In this case it is necessary to keep up the conversation and to transfer it to the positive course. If the person does not accept "blamestorming session", it is possible just to suggest to reconcile. Or to sort a situation in detail and to find out everything up to the end if it not against to talk on this subject. That's all, but the main thing in this process - tranquility, sincerity and belief that everything will be good. Without it no schemes and any logic will help.