Not all teenagers have successful families with the loving and amicable parents. Much more often the teenager suffers from the fact that parents incessantly quarrel, clash, or are on the verge of a divorce. In a situation of a quarrel of parents children usually appear between the devil and the deep sea, without knowing what party to accept, and wishing to reconcile mother and the father. Not always it is possible to reconcile really parents by own efforts, but in certain cases you can try to adjust a situation in family.
Instruction
1. First of all, define in what quarrels parents reason and as far as it is deep. It is possible if feelings of parents absolutely cooled down, it is better for you not to interfere with their relations – all the same not to avoid a divorce. If you see that parents love each other, but for some reason clash, try to think up the strategy of reconciliation.
2. Some parents in a quarrel begin to use the child in the purposes, manipulating him and inciting him against other parent. Do not allow to operate yourself – if the father asks you something to transfer to mother because he does not talk to her, refuse. Then parents willy-nilly should contact, and they will not play for you any roles any more. Let parents know that the quarrel they bring pain and alarm to you.
3. If parents are rather adequate, try to bring together them on "a family meeting" and to talk seriously and without mutual claims. Be passionless and quiet – parents have to see in you the adult who worries for the family atmosphere and wants parents to begin to belong to each other as again earlier.
4. Try to restore some event, memorable and expensive to both of them, for parents. Arrange them a romantic lunch by candlelight or a visit of restaurant as many years ago. Bring together parents in one place in romantic atmosphere, prepare all necessary, and then leave. Perhaps, it will revive former feelings.
5. The main thing that you should not do is to draw attention to itself with negative events as that: leaving the house, alcohol, drugs, tobacco and other demonstrative ways to draw to itself attention of quarreling. Do not pay with own health and reputation for behavior of parents – try to reconcile them in more reasonable ways.