The quarrel with the father can arise for various reasons, but anyway it is necessary to look for ways of a solution to the conflict. Patience, a step, desire to improve the relations with the loved one – here composed success on the way to reconciliation.
Analysis of the causes of conflict
The conflict situation with someone from close people, as a rule, causes strong emotions in both participants of a quarrel. You, as well as your father, can feel offense, rage, irritation, fear and other negative experiences. To get rid of them it is necessary to resolve a disputable situation as soon as possible.
Try to analyze for a start objectively the reasons which caused a quarrel with your father. Whom do you consider guilty in this situation? Why? Remember that, besides the visible reasons, your parent could be guided in the actions by any the motives hidden, unknown to you. Perhaps, he wanted to make as it is better for you, but did not consider any moments.
If it seems to you that your father has no right for mistakes, remember that he is the same person, as well as all. You should not demand too much from close people, it is not necessary and to idealize them. Remember that on Earth there is no faultless person, everyone at least once in life makes mistakes.
Steps to reconciliation
Invite your father to a conversation. If he does not agree, do not insist, most likely, the person just is not ready to discussing current situation yet. Wait for an opportunity and repeat your attempts again. If your father agrees to talk, choose time, convenient for both of you, and the place where nobody would prevent you. In advance think of what you will tell it. You should not begin a conversation with reproaches and charges if you consider that your father is guilty of the conflict. Try to explain quietly and intelligibly your point of view. In a conversation emphasize that moment that you are grateful to your parent for his valuable advice and care of you, but you already grew up and have the right to choose the way even if also wrong, independently. If your father takes too authoritative position in relation to you, softly point to him to it and tell that similar hyper guardianship and mistrust hurt you. You adduce powerful arguments and arguments in protection of your point of view. You keep firmly and surely, at the same time you should not break on shout and to get involved in a verbal sparring. Not superfluous will be to remind also your father of his youth, that he too for certain made mistakes. And if you really are mistaken, then will accept also all responsibility for the mistakes. In case you offended your father and regret it, sincerely ask for him forgiveness. Tell him that were wrong that you love and respect him. Reconciliation with the father will be promoted not only by a serious and quiet talk, but also any manifestations of your love and respect in relation to it. Better if they are put not only into words, but also business. To smooth a situation, invite it to fishing, be engaged together in some other interesting business. You appreciate and respect your relatives and, especially, parents. Remember that often they do not show offense to the children, silently suffering from their inattention, disrespect, etc. Be able to forgive – even if you consider that in a quarrel there is no your fault, take the first steps to reconciliation.