As weigh upon the child's time the controlling views of parents! Of course, on the first years of his life all were happy. But now, when desire to remove parental control insufferably what to do? It is necessary to become the adult. It as in the subway - there passed the turnstile, and - freedom. Controllers remained behind. The maturity of the teenager can be seen not only on his physiological signs, but also on his emotional manifestations, the speech and acts. What does the person, it is difficult for them to breathe because of parental guardianship need to consider?
- The skill to care for others feelings, and not just about own.
1. You learn to constrain feelings. The adult - not the one who does everything what is wantedwhat is wanted, and the one who does that it is necessary. It is not necessary to create to himself reputation of the one who splashes out the emotions when something goes not as there was a wish. Much more attractively in the opinion of parents ability to constrain itself. Therefore it is not necessary to complain or behave as the whimsical child. Let kids pout and slam the doors. Otherwise desired freedom not to achieve. On the contrary, it can return already forgotten restrictions.
2. Communicate with parents in an adult way. Every time, communicating with parents, assure them of the understanding. Instead of dissatisfied "as I was bothered by your control!", better to say: "I understand your concerns, you want to grow up from me the worthy person". And further the situation can propose the adult compromise solution. Sometimes it is useful to ask directly and yours faithfully: "I want me to be given more freedom. What to me for this purpose to make?".
3. Be initiative. It is important to assure parents that it is already possible to rely on you. It is possible to offer himself as the cook or the serviceman of the apartment. Prove to parents that you are able to handle competently money and do not spend them for Chupa Chups any more. If you already earn additionally during vacation, suggest to contribute the share in payment of utility bills.
4. Observe parental requirements. Adults know the price to hygiene and an order. It is not necessary to look for loopholes in "law" on toothbrushing and frequent washing of hands. Be honest even in small. If parents notice that you only pretend in observance of their requirements, then they will pretend that they removed the control over you.