Sudden declaration of love can change life. If it is incorrect to react, it is possible to put an end, apparently, to the strong relations. In fact, there are only two options as it is possible to react.
Mutual feelings - everything is simple
The first option – positive. When feelings are mutual, you can respond to recognition absolutely symmetrically. It can become one of wonderful moments of life - emotions break outside, address words. Do not try to speak about feelings difficult, you speak from heart.
Difficult situations
The second option – not so fine. The guy (or the girl) makes a declaration of love for whom you have no similar feelings. It is very awkward, difficult moment – you hear recognition, but you do not know how to answer not to offend or to offend this person. You do not hurry, do not answer mechanically, but do not give vain hope.
If you are not sure of feelings, you should not answer categorically with refusal or consent. It is very difficult to refuse such words then.
If recognition sounded suddenly, directly tell that you did not think before of similar development, cannot understand emotions, need time. You can answer, of course, with categorical refusal, but it, most likely, will give up as a bad job any further (even not romantic) relations with the lover. Unfortunately, there is always an opportunity that the unlucky lover will decide to revenge you to resolve a situation with one-way love. Even if such idea seems to you absurd, do not dismiss it, sometimes people behave inadequately. Therefore it is necessary to answer most softly, without allowing the person to count in the future on affirmative answer. Sometimes absolutely unpleasant person whom you in general do not want to see more decides to report to you about feelings. You should not show the negative feelings concerning this person. Tell that you have no reciprocal feelings and you will not test in the future. Such step will help to get rid of the unnecessary admirer.
As the response to recognition if you asked time for thoughts, you can write the letter. So emotions it is much simpler to structure thoughts and.
There is also the third, intermediate option – can be, you are not sure of feelings, can seem that you experience emotions, weak, similar to love. Then It is necessary to tellIt is necessary to tell about it honestly. In general straight talk – a panacea in a difficult situation. It is necessary to explain to the person why you doubt emotions, to specify existence of circumstances which complicate manifestations of feelings. Be not afraid to offend the person interested in you, telling him the truth about emotions. If you to him are important, he will be able to discuss a situation and to understand it.