To marry quicker to divorce – it meets infrequently. Generally after all families are started with hope for eternal love and cloudless happiness. However not all have enough wisdom and patience to understand the spouse, to offer own habits and interests for the sake of the family benefit. Then the love and heat – for the sake of what the man and the woman decided to be together leave.
Instruction
1. To restore the relations with the wife, try to understand why they collapsed. Write the list from two columns: at the left – what you appreciate your wife, on the right – that in her does not suit you. Think whether often you praised the wife for her positive lines and how expressed discontent with negative. Present that in such expressions and such tone censure is stated to you, think what would be your reaction.
2. Make the same list of your own positive and negative qualities, and from the point of view of the wife. Think what in you does not suit her – whether you are ready to refuse these habits for the sake of family happiness.
3. Remember your most serious quarrels and try to estimate their reasons most objectively. Perhaps, in quick temper and anger you with the wife did not hear really each other, or you did not have enough words and endurance to state mutual claims distinctly and convincingly. Estimate a position of your wife from the new point of view and try to understand what so angered her – perhaps, it will turn out that it had serious reasons for offense.
4. After you anew looked at a situation, it is worth calling the wife on a conversation. Estimate her mood at present: if she is ready aggressively, then, most likely, will give a hostile reception to all attempts to reconciliation. It is better to soften at first her with daily unostentatious manifestations of friendliness and participation – the help in life, occupations with children. Do not forget to mention in communication with children what good mother at them – anyway, the wife surely learns about it. Just in case, you can speak more loudly.
5. If you felt that the wife is ready to discussion of your relations, offer her a serious conversation. Do not begin it with a charge position at all – let's the wife express and listen to her attentively. If you understand that the wife is right in the reproaches, agree with her and promise to make everything to improve. If you think that she is unfair, try to state the point of view most convincingly, without raising the voice and without resorting to arguments like "and you …".
6. After the wife spoke, and you made everything to let it know that you realized own mistakes, quietly explain what did not suit you in the developed relations. Listen to her arguments – perhaps, they are not deprived of reasons. But, if you are still convinced of your correctness, state the opinion quietly and without insults – try to reach compromise.