Bol, offense, sincere emptiness — has such feelings the deceived wife who learned that the husband has a mistress. Some women act rashly at once and file for a divorce. Others, having decided to keep family, begin to think of how to take away the man from a razluchnitsa.
Instruction
1. That you had more chances to win competition for the man with other woman, stop to be tormented. Instead it is simply vital to lift to itself a self-assessment. Therefore send far away to the past of a thought that you are necessary to nobody that you are not attractive, silly, etc. On the contrary, convince yourself that you an ideal, and better you there is nobody. The self-assured woman is a quiet woman. And to such, but not the man aspires to the person who is eternally doubting herself.
2. Take a small break — go to mother, the girlfriend or to sanatorium to such amount of time how many you feel necessary. It is required to you to put thoughts in order and to understand how to work further. Spend this time as you find necessary.
3. Connect indifference share to business. You do not call him, equip the leisure so that to you it was cheerful also without husband. Psychologists assure: the man are arranged so that begin to be nervous if his "habitual" wife suddenly begins any new life in which he places can not appear. In that case the man begins to spend more time at home, tries to be connected to family affairs and... forgets about the mistress. He simply has no time to meet her.
4. As soon as the attention of the husband switches to family again, begin to connect it to household chores and problems gradually. Consult on it once again to remind him that he is a head of the family. Let the man feel that his family depends on him, and then he will have more responsibility for you and the house.
5. Of course, while there is such intense competition, do not make to the husband any scandals. Otherwise he will be developed and will go there where wait for it and love it what it is.
6. Surely look at yourself in a mirror in a new way. You go to beauty shop, spend the whole day to SPA, have hair cut, recoloured, lose weight — a word, make something that will help you to change cardinally. The keyword here — is cardinal. Your husband brought the mistress because the novelty ceased to be enough for him. And here you will become both former, and new at the same time. It is so unusual and intriguingly.