The strip of problems in the relations overtakes the majority of couples sooner or later. It is necessary to be able to behave in a similar situation, to show wisdom and to try to construct diplomatically dialogue, on the one hand, to advocate own interests, and with another – not to wound self-esteem of the soulmate.
Instruction
1. First of all it is necessary to calm down. The more you are upset and are nervous, the it will be more difficult to concentrate and find to you the correct decision. Besides negative emotions still more exaggerate. It is better to try to abstract from problems, to leave everything as it is for some time, to cool down. You remember – it is possible to find a way out of any problem situation.
2. After you settle into shape, return to the problems overcoming you. Look at a situation under different corners, weigh all pros and cons. Perhaps, you inflate from a fly of an elephant. Actually everything is much simpler, than it seems to you. Often vital difficulties seem intolerable because it is not possible to look at them objectively and to analyze probable consequences.
3. Quite often, to escape from problems, it is necessary to steep in work. Only try not to transfer difficulties of personal character to working process. It is nonprofessional therefore, coming to work, try "to switch" and be engaged in direct performance of own duties.
4. It is important to understand that it is impossible to solve all family problems in a flash. It is widespread mistake of many people is to undertake all affairs at the same time. Usually as a result it is not possible to solve any problem properly. It is better to place priorities and to carry out everything one after another by the principle from simple to difficult.
5. It is also necessary to master the gushed stress in time. The sports, the loved hobby and other things capable to give you pleasure will help to cope with it. Read the fascinating book, take a walk outdoors, meet friends and so on.
6. At a conversation with darling you do not become personal. You speak about the arisen problem, without mentioning casually other shortcomings and already forgotten offenses. Otherwise the situation will even more be aggravated. Behave politely, try to make contact – do not hang up, do not run from a conversation.
7. If it is difficult to you to solve problems alone, address for support close friends. Understanding of the help gives energy and allows to be adjusted on more positive harmony.
8. If you feel that it is impossible to find a way out of the arisen family problem, ask for the help the expert. It is possible to undergo consultation together with the soulmate. Similar therapy will help not only to get rid of urgent problems, but also to bring the relations to new level.