Unfortunately, not always the family conflicts come to an end with verbal sparrings. Sometimes the husband can pass to manhandling. The situation cannot be neglected at all. Sort out the reasons of the events and develop strategy of behavior.
Remember that it is not enough to divorce the husband who dares to raise a hand against himself. If you do not establish the reason of current situation, further it can repeat. It is difficult to recognize it, but sometimes the woman turns out partially guilty that in family the beating and fights appeared. Some women provoke spouses to such behavior, others just allow to treat themselves in this way.
It in any time does not excuse men, but after all influences a family situation.
Happens that the woman builds up the relationship by an example of the parents. If her father beat mother, unfortunately, the situation can repeat in the next generation. It is necessary to understand that it is impossible to call such situation normal. A beating leads to humiliation of the personality and emergence of the unhealthy atmosphere in family.
Those men who were often punished in the childhood have tendency to show physical abuse in relation to women. If the atmosphere of terror reigned in family of your spouse, it was constantly suppressed by the parents, it can become the manhandling reason in your house. It is possible to improve situation if your man is ready to accept the reasons of own aggression and to begin to fight against its manifestations. If he does not understand that he acts incorrectly, and will not want to change, you should not live with such person.
If your husband is ready to follow a way of correction, and you decided to give it this chance, help it. Your spouse has to learn to express the emotions not actions, and words. Accustom him to express, talk to him more often. Men are very closed emotionally. Sometimes it becomes the reason of inability to speak about the feelings. Own example you can show a way to frankness, sincerity and honesty.
Perhaps, looking at you, the husband will begin to open too.
Let your spouse send the energy storming inside to some other course. Instead of fights with the wife it is possible to play sports, to make something, to tide up, work in a garden. Negative emotions are released, but harm is not done to none of relatives at the same time. You have to behave correctly too. If you decided to save the marriage, forget about the past, try not to speak about negative points. Support the spouse who followed a way of correction, you praise it and encourage. Do not provoke the man. Do not offend him and refrain from too sharp criticism. So far you will not understand that he learned to behave, be especially quiet, correct and tactful. If, despite all assurances, the situation in your family remains the same, it is time for you to make the important decision and to leave the husband who beats you. Understand that behind the first time the second and third will follow. The relations have to bring joy, but not a grief and a beating. With the tyrant you will never have a normal life. Think of the future children. And if you already have a child, especially it is worth throwing the spouse to save children's mentality from cruel injuries. Find support group. Your friends and the family can enter into it. Find occupation which will help you to provide itself, and build new, free and happy life.