In each family there are problems, and this normal phenomenon sooner or later. Success in family life will depend on whether developed couple the mechanism of settlement of these problems.
1. The main objective on ensuring trouble-free existence falls on the wife. Not because "Domestic tyranny" so orders, just women by the nature adapt to circumstances more flexibl and easier. If the wife at emergence of conflict situations shows the same rigidity, as her husband, in family there are problems which accrue over time as a snowball if not to solve them.
2. The root of all these problems lies practically in one – the husband does not feel like the head of the family. The woman needs to understand that the man goes her in defiance not because he is a fool and the villain but because he desperately fights for the right was the main thing in family. Give it this place. Why it to you? The role of the woman is to be the eminence grise, to be a neck which gradually operates the head. The woman's methods – in manipulations, but not in direct fight.
3. In the majority of problem families to the woman there is no wish to be "the second violin", and she tries to obtain the desirable by power methods: forces the husband to do that she wants, saws him if it does not grant her desires, forces it to feel guilty. She, of course, achieves some results, however the husband feels at the same time humiliated, and does everything to revenge the wife. If you do not need the husband who does everything under pressure, allow it to be the man. Stop to order and, perhaps, you will see that he can quite cope with a leading role in family.
4. Get a habit to praise the husband for everything that he does for you and for family. You praise him sincerely, but not for show. The man as air needs women's admiration. Then he will be happy itself and will make happy you. Besides, praising the husband, you will feel how your attitude towards him changes.
5. If your family is dear to you, solve all problems not in terms of "well for me", and think what option most of all will suit your family. Having developed such approach, the woman will very easily keep silent when there is a wish to tell something such, it is easy to make the decision accepted for all when the question concerns monetary expenditure and also it is easy to reach compromise in hundreds of questions unsolvable earlier. If at you not "I" am on the first place, but "we", the husband it is obligatory to appreciate your efforts and also will become much more flexible in the solution of many questions.