It is heavy to open the heart and to speak frankly about the feelings. Many deterrents do not give it to make. Someone could already pay for the frankness, someone feels awkward, it is simpler to someone to show the feelings acts, but not words, and someone is afraid to cause a reciprocal wave of a negative.
Instruction
1. Most often people are constrained by fear. For some reason straight talks about feelings are perceived as exposure of soul when the person becomes completely defenseless and vulnerable. The grain of truth in it is. Really, opened most often strong in spirit people or indifferent to others opinion are. Nevertheless, it is impossible to do without such skill. The person cannot exist separately, he needs communication, and it is desirable honest and open. For this purpose it is necessary to learn to define precisely the feelings and emotions, to clearly formulate the desires and to avoid aggression and irony in relation to the partner.
2. If you had any strong emotions or feelings in relation to other person (positive or negative) if you want that this person made or did not make certain actions, decide on the feelings and honestly admit to yourself them. It can be both love and sympathy, and hatred and irritation.
3. If decide first of all for yourself that you want from the partner, then and set for yourself feasible object. In this case it is polite, but surely and it is definitely necessary to tell about the desires. Describe current situation: list that happens to you what it causes feelings in you. Refrain from comments, just describe the facts. At the same time the speech has to sound from the first person, pronouns have to sound: "I", "me", "me". Any charges and aggression: "you", "you", "you".
4. Formulate that you wait from the person for, avoid general phrases, you say specifically what his behavior and acts can change current situation.
5. The next stage is very important. Attentively listen to everything that you will be answered, do not interrupt. Just once again repeat that it is necessary for you to feel comfortable. Do not wait that someone will understand you from the first, all look at a situation under the corner, everyone has feelings and desires. The main thing – is frank to tell about them, then it is possible to find a common language. Show the ability to speak openly and to listen to the words of the partner.