Once in one old, in public favourite cartoon it was sung: "It is no secret that friends do not grow in a kitchen garden. You will not sell and will not buy friends". And this is truethis is truethis is true – true friends it is impossible neither to buy, nor to get as a result of some transaction. However the need for communication and friendly support still remains one of the most important in human life. Where and how to find friends and to start friendship if it for some reason is impossible by itself?
Instruction
1. To get friends, first of all define the circle of contacts and the sphere of interest. As a rule, the friendly relations arise between the people having something the general: work, interests, hobbies, similar purposes and outlooks on life. Besides, common cause rallies and gives food for discussion and exchange of views. Therefore first of all look for new friends among those people with whom you already communicate.
2. Having looked narrowly at the people surrounding you and having distinguished from them those with whom you would like to establish more close ties, start action. The most important, you remember that friendship cannot be constructed in one day or week. You need a lot of time to look narrowly to each other and to find mutually comfortable ways of communication.
3. Begin to show the friendly, interested attention to nice to you to the person. Ask his opinions on the current events, be interested in his views and life, state the views. However do not forget to show moderation in the interest not to seem persuasive. If you see that the person reluctantly makes contact, do not insist. Perhaps, another time it will turn out better.
4. If you seek to start friendship with fellow workers, try to take active part in all public extra working actions. Visit corporate holidays, country picnics and trips. In such informal situation it is the simplest to people to adjust companionship.
5. Write down birthdays of the colleagues and the people interesting you, do not forget to congratulate them on other important dates. At the same time it is not necessary to make any considerable gifts which could cause suspicion or embarrass the person. There is quite enough oral friendly congratulation and small souvenir.
6. When you notice that your efforts yielded result and people treat you with big friendliness, willingly communicate, invite someone from them to spend time together: to visit a sports meet, to sit in bar behind friendly chat, to come to your birthday, to celebrate together a holiday and so forth. If up to this point you acted correctly and without excessive persistence, you will see that your future friends willingly respond to your invitations.