The henpecked is a man who completely submits to the wife in the majority of questions. He does not assume the decision, does not take the responsibility very small part in family life. If this situation does not suit you, everything can be changed.
Instruction
1. Think why everything is solved by the spouse, but not you? Be frank with themselves, business can be that you just once did not want to resolve any issues, they fell on the woman, can just make you not to Umeta the right decisions, and everything what are you doing badly comes to an end, or you are afraid to be responsible for deeds. Analyze a situation, find the moment when the woman began to solve everything itself, think of the reasons of it. But do not accuse her, and look for shortcomings of both.
2. If you are not able to be responsible for the words or are afraid of responsibility, the woman constantly tries to secure you. She is not sure of you, worries that you will not cope. It is possible to change it, it is only worth proving that all of you can. Begin with small, at first make small the decision, for example, show an initiative under repair, do not wait for a reminder, and execute everything independently. Begin to be independent in the sphere of men's affairs, show to the lady that it has a great husband who is able to do everything by hands or is capable to invite the master in time.
3. Join in discussion of important questions, for example, of the vacation spot or planning of educational institution for children. Be active, do not agree that the woman wants. Express the opinion, you share fears and hopes. Look for the common decision which will suit both. It is not necessary to be afraid that the woman will be against. At first there can be some resistance, but if you prove from the best side, it will quickly come to naught.
4. Choose spheres of life which are interesting to you, take for them responsibility. For example, take for the rule to take away the child from kindergarten, to make a family lunch on Saturdays or to walk with kids every weekend. Carry out it regularly. At first the woman will control you, she will call and check, but after a while she will understand that you can follow it and without it instructions, she will cease to operate you, will entrust these actions.
5. Expand a circle of powers, take responsibility for increasing number of affairs. But at the same time do everything well that the lady never had to remake something. Her opinion on you quickly will begin to change, she will learn to trust, will lean more often on your shoulder, but not to order. But you remember that it is necessary to undertake man's work, but not women's. It is not necessary to prevent it to be implemented. Creation of interiors, purchase of ware or a chandelier is a woman's world, your initiative in these questions is simply inappropriate. You will not be able to please.
6. Establish a new order of life, its principle — a soveshchatelnost. Be interested in everything occurring in the house, take active part in discussion, express the preferences and desires. Be not a tyrant, but also do not refuse the opinion. At first you all the same often should agree with the woman, she already understood everything, but gradually she will learn to trust you, will give a part of powers, and you will be able to leave a condition of the henpecked.