When the relations come to an end, and only and favourite becomes the ex-husband, it is time to change the life cardinally. Certainly, the love will not leave suddenly. And furthermore, the feeling of loss and disappointment from impossibility of possession of that who already is not a soulmate any more only strengthen love for the former spouse. However it is necessary to get resolutely it together, to learn to control the emotions and to be exempted from memoirs of the past.
Instruction
1. Give a splash to emotions. The love and anger are interconnected. Transform unrealized feelings to a rage splash. But do not direct the hatred to someone and furthermore on the ex-husband. Just retire, and let the anger will as much as possible be shown so as far as it is possible. Beat a pillow, throw vases, turn out a blanket, cut to pieces a photo album. Most likely, from outside these actions will look ridiculously and silly, but the anger in principle is ridiculous. After such meditation of a thought to cause to someone to make pain will disappear, and the hysterical feeling of "byvshesta" and uselessness will develop into steadiness and feeling own advantage.
2. After restraint of negative emotions from love for former thoughts and a self-reflection on a subject "can slow down "recovery" I cannot forget", "to me it is bad without it", "return". To solve this problem much more simply. Give the brain full-time job, begin to write memoirs, to read books, to solve problems. Believers prayers, esotericists - a mantra clean.
3. The turn came to get rid of memoirs. Change all fantastic memories of your marriage and the relations any other. For example, about the nice man from the next department. Or at the moment when it wants to remember a wedding, force themselves to think of a recent campaign to mountains with friends. Several days of the strengthened training and self-checking will make the business.
4. It is time to do revaluation of own values. If earlier in the center of your Universe there was a beloved spouse, then after his leaving, time to displace the center in other party came. Draw in the head what will be priority in the next few days, weeks, years. Dream, formulate the desires and interests. Also start their realization. Repeat this exercise a little to believe in itself and to begin full-fledged life without ex-husband and without memories of love.
5. Carry out correction of mistakes. Try not to step on an old rake from now on. It is necessary to start this step after completion of all previous actions over itself. Many women try to find out what went not so, having only just left the man. It only adds new complexes and experiences. Everything is good in its season. Remove a formula the mistakes, draw conclusions and change. Everything is simple: if in the relations everything is good very few people will think and will take actions to change itself. But, if now, after parting, you change yourself probably a situation with a divorce more and to repeat never.