Unfortunately, rudeness — the phenomenon very widespread. The unflattering characteristic of own person heard even from lips absolutely of the stranger can spoil mood for the whole day. Therefore it is necessary to know how to communicate with boors.
Instruction
1. Do not raise the voice. The best way to provoke the boor and to amuse public — to pass to raised tone and to enter a skirmish. Trying to humiliate and offend, the aggressor provokes you to response, it is much easier for it to control similar "conversation", than a constructive conversation. Maintaining the set tone, you, maybe, will also manage to argue own point of view, but to look in the opinion of people around (and in own) will be not in the best way.
2. Be polite. Instead of falling to the level of the interlocutor, damp his ardor own step. Tendency to criticize everyone and everything and also to notice others misses and shortcomings — destiny of diffident people who are not satisfied with the life. Instead of shouting or, what is even worse, to justify oneself in reply, listen to an angry tirade silently. Then tell the instigator of the conflict that you are not going to continue a conversation in similar tone. Suggest it to calm down and make at first toilet, and then again to return to a conversation.
3. You joke. If sense of humour — your fad, then respond to spiteful statements in a playful form. Force to smile all witnesses of the conflict. It is the most effective way to confuse the provoker. Trying to arrange "dismantling", he tries to draw attention to himself, to get approval of people around and to ego-trip at your expense. It is unlikely the boor expects good-natured laughter and indulgent smiles. And he will like to act as the local clown hardly.
4. Ignore. You are not able to parry pejorative remarks flashing humour? You learn to meet attacks by indifferent silence. You look to the interlocutor directly in a nose bridge — it confuses. To keep coolness and calm, present that between you and an aggressor there is a transparent wall. Try to visualize it to the smallest details, to present how the words of the interlocutor fight about this wall and fly away back. One more popular equipment: mentally pour out on the head to the boor a bucket of water or present that he... naked. Thus you not just abstract from an unpleasant situation, but also will lighten yourself the mood.