Life is full of all surprises, sometimes not really pleasant; happen also such which to take very hard. But if be near – your darling, true and reliable, then even the most, apparently, desperate situation, will seem not such gloomy and will surely be resolved. Such difficult moments also test the human relations for durability, but to pass these tests, the wisdom is necessary.
Instruction
1. Each loving woman at once notices when the person close to it has some trouble. How to arrive in such cases, to you, of course, your intuition will prompt, but, unfortunately, not all have enough worldly wisdom to behave so that inadvertently not to touch the person even more. It is important to get at once it together and to try to consider quietly a situation. Anyway, if your darling is upset with something and endured a stress, do not increase in it panic and irritation and do not create around you a charged atmosphere.
2. When there is a serious problem, very often people become reserved. They do not know how to work further and have to consider a situation at first. More it concerns men. Therefore give time to your darling to recover, do not stick with inquiries and do not impose the communication. When he is able, he will tell everything to you also.
3. And still darling came to you; it is important to it to know that he is not lonely. Be near, try to surround it with the unostentatious care and a cosiness. Make to it a tasty dinner, turn on the good music, give it what he loves. Perhaps, the calming massage, it in tension which it is necessary to remove and reject away oppressive thoughts will be not superfluous.
4. Whatever difficult was the problem, it is hardly necessary at once to start doing something. Time is necessary to be released from it, to have a rest and relax. Try to convince your friend to take a walk together somewhere of the park, to go to the cinema, at last.
5. When the strongest emotions become dull, the person at once wants to be uttered, tell what at him collected in soul. Your role – attentively to listen to him, without interrupting, and then several to put support into words. Try not to tread on its corns inadvertently. Do not give any useful tips; now they are not necessary to it at all. And any reproaches or condemnation even if you see that he in something is wrong – you want to help him, but not to dig in a wound.
6. In this case you – the objective party with the clear and sober head. Offer it the real help, push on specific actions.
7. Do not allow darling to fall into a long depression, it is very harmful not only to mentality, but also to health in general. Give it psychological support. Of course, you not the professional psychologist, but love has to help you to act correctly. Yours tenderness and caress are necessary for it.