The psychological atmosphere in family, happiness of spouses and also that is important, the personal growth of the man at a difficult moment depends on ability to support the man. As they say, all it is good and not so simple.
Instruction
1. The thing is that to men since the childhood repeated that it is necessary to be strong, not to be given and never to cry. And women got used to it and already at the sight of the upset face of the beloved are lost or are even irritated. Therefore you need to understand that in many respects success of the man depends on the woman, and then you will be able to apprehend crises as tasks with which you need to cope.
2. Remember that it is necessary to keep calm and not to multiply panic of the man at all. At first can seem that he is silent (namely it is men do when him it is bad), so something hides from you. And there are silly thoughts and suspicions, but all this should not be. The instant inquiries and tension you will only increase complexity of a situation. Therefore, you hold yourself I in hand.
3. Further, surround the man with care, love and a cosiness. If he came from work, without excess questions let's it undress, serve up the most tasty dinner, turn on the pleasant music, light candles. You can even make the calming massage or just gently massage the head and a vorotnikovy zone. At this moment the main thing that the man as much as possible relaxed, and oppressive thoughts for a while left it.
4. Go to joint walk on the park, look together at the lake, feed ducks. At this moment when the man understands that you are near, you support and you love it, you can tactfully begin to ask that befell. It will be open for you, in it there are no doubts.
5. Having attentively listened, not interrupting, tell several words of understanding. Expressing the opinion on a situation, be careful, try not to touch the man with the remark. Foresee reaction in advance.
6. Help it with everything: to gather for work, to iron shirt, to print the report. And all - without excess questions. Household and minor working problems can spoil mood in a flash if at heart at the person restlessly. Therefore remove all these duties from shoulders of the man.
7. Offer the help. Men are quite ordinary in the decisions and are straightforward, and the woman has a natural cunning and wisdom, so show her in this situation. For example, if your darling quarreled with the friend, suggest to arrange truce, having gone in common families to some action which will be able to unite all. For example, on soccer.
8. The main thing, show tranquility and patience and always let know to the man that you are near. It is not necessary to pronounce many words, there is enough one capacious council and your comprehensive care that the beloved endured the difficult situation without loss, but with great gratitude to you.