Unfortunately, relentless statistics says to us that about 70% of married couples get divorced in the first two years of joint life. Not important, what experience of the family relations at you. These figures are provided only in order that you understood – you are far from alone in the trouble. So it happened that you got divorced from husband. Does not matter why it happened, only the fact that you cannot reconcile to this fact in any way is important and to forget everything, and it very much prevents to live. If you got into such situation, then, perhaps, you will be helped by some advice of this article.
Instruction
1. The first what you need to get rid of is from sense of guilt. The divorce can take place both at the initiative of the husband, and at the initiative of the wife, and happens, as according to the mutual decision. But, anyway, all the same both of you will have strong feeling of fault. As so, you started a family and could not keep it … Yes, any on your place would feel guilty. And if you have children, then you will feel guilty also before them. You did not want at all children to have to choose and grow in incomplete family. But you have to understand that not only you are guilty. Besides, sense of guilt will only spoil a situation even more, will not allow you to live further and to build new life. Therefore you need to realize it and to get rid of sense of guilt.
2. The second what you have to begin to fight against is an embitternment. You will be surely angry with the ex-husband. It is normal – the person by the nature tries not to take the responsibility for the event and to shift it to the second party. But understand that it is impossible to blame for all mistakes only him. If business reached a divorce, so both parties are guilty by all means. Except, certainly, absolutely wild cases when husbands are just very dishonourable people. But also in this case realize that the rage and hatred will not solve a problem, and will only even more irritate to you soul. Learn to forgive – and it will become much easier to live after the divorce.
3. If you take a divorce hard, then try to cease to estimate the events. You do not divide the world into bad and good. Your divorce – it is not bad and it is not good, it is just a reality. Reconcile to it.
4. To distract from sad thoughts, take care of the own life. Change, become beautiful. Change image, style, change hair color, register in dances. Only do it not to prove to the husband what beautiful woman he lost, and just for himself. Derive pleasure from yourself – and the world will seem to you wonderful.
5. Stop thinking of the past. What was, will not change that. Try to leave some warm moments in heart, bad try to forget, and move on life further. You still will be surely happy. In a different way also cannot be. Happiness to you!