Quite often the dissatisfaction in family life pushes the woman on treason. And very few people think before having a ball to what consequences all this can lead. But here, at last, the double life already so exhausted that the woman begins to understand – it is necessary to choose someone one. But how to leave the lover that then was not excruciatingly painful?
It is required to you
- Persistence
- Patience
- Self-control
Instruction
1. The easiest way to leave is to take French leave, without saying goodbye. It is simple to disappear from his life. Not to answer calls, not to come to meetings, to ignore all its attempts to meet. As they say, out of sight, out of mind. It will be easier for you to endure such gap if you do not cling to the old relations. Be persistent – do not give yourself ease. You solved it, so so to that and to be. Easier to transfer parting, find to yourself occupation: give to time to children, work, art more. Try to adjust your family life, at last. Look for the reason of your treason. Perhaps, it is worth trying to improve the matrimonial relations somehow. You will have much more free time now. So spend it with advantage for yourself.
2. But the first option will approach only in case your lover not impulsive person. Otherwise you risk to acquire to yourself a great deal of trouble. Of course, it is the best of all not to have any relations with similar type of men at all. But, as they say, all of us are strong back mind. If your partner after all is neurotic nature, it is worth preparing him for the forthcoming gap somehow. Try to find such arguments which will promote understanding of your decision. Alone with yourself you can even rehearse the forthcoming explanation a little. Try to construct a conversation so that your partner felt that your relations reached a deadlock. They do not bring not only to you any more, but also to it any satisfaction. Further communication will only torment both of you. Came it is time to leave to find something new. After all, you can remain kind friends, without coming back to more close relations.
3. It is difficult to foresee in advance reaction of the man to the offer to suspend relations. It is good if he understands everything and with quiet heart will release you. But you should not forget that such offer can strongly anger him. Better in advance prepare all ways to retreat. Think properly when choosing the meeting place. It is the best of all to meet in the neutral territory that in case of aggressive reaction you could leave.
4. Also you should not be indignant strongly if in an offense rush the man tells to you the mass of unpleasant things. Most likely, it is stated only for rage. You also in a similar situation can behave in this way. Try to understand it and to forgive. It will be so easier for both of you.