Sometimes in the relations there comes the moment when everything is bad. During such periods pleases nothing, each event, each act causes only irritation and disgust. Also it is possible to suffer all this or to open, tell that it is time to change something.
All unions develop, and time of discharge happens at all. It is natural, after take-off there is always a falling. It is necessary to understand that it is not the end, it only calm. But at the same time it is necessary to make it comfortable for both, the patience can not be enough, and then it will be back difficult to return everything.
That does not suit you
Person very emotional being. He can be angry, shout, packing different things in a heap. At the time of anger it is impossible to control words and actions. Therefore costs will calm down. It is better to speak about a negative in a quiet state. But at first it is necessary to be defined and that really does not arrange. Usually there are 1-2 problems, and all the rest follows from them. For example, the partner in life is without work, he does not try to find something, and just stays at home. At the same time does not help about the house, spends money and is not engaged with children. In this case the problem one — lack of earnings, and all the rest follows from it. It is worth solving the main task, all others will cease to exist.
Allocate the main problem in your relations. If it is impossible, then make the list of all claims, and then to each point ask a question: "And why so occurs?". And then you receive a root of troubles. About it it is necessary to speak in couple, and about feelings which began to die away. Be honest with themselves, there is no that enthusiasm any more that was at the beginning, there is no love and passion any more. But it is possible to return it only together.
How to tell the truth
Choose a right moment, it is necessary that it was day when both not too were tired when children do not distract and there are several hours everything to discuss. In advance you do not speak about a serious conversation, do not frighten the satellite. Just when you will find time, give some tea and begin the narration. Remember that it is better to give the main arguments at once, to explain the claims. But without emotions or shout. It is structured let know that not so. But do not offer the ways of the decision. Designate tasks, but you speak only about yourself: about the feelings about it, about the experiences and doubts. Place emphasis that you think, do not impose opinion. Then ask and that on mind at the partner. Of course, it can leave from the answer. It happens often as he needs to think. Give to the person this chance. Through some time return to a conversation. Can in couple of days or week. Ask that he thinks of your words. If again refuses, look for a new occasion. And only after the answer suggest to look for decisions. If the person does not make contact, then write it the letter. Again state everything that you think briefly and clear, and ask a question of what to do next. Only families in which discuss problems can long exist. Learn to build dialogue, to tell about the problems, about feelings. Be honest, and then you will be able to transfer any difficulties.