Guys very seldom forgive treason therefore before speaking about it, it is necessary to think properly. If to hide an act there are no forces, it is necessary to specify the reason of current situation in a conversation and to emphasize that you do not hurry the young man with decision-making.
Instruction
1. Before speaking to the guy about treason, try to understand yourself and to answer questions why so occurred what factors influenced current situation and whether the present relations are of value. If treason consists in the sudden uncontrollable rush of passion which does not have continuation keep silent better, do not force darling to suffer in vain. The lie for rescue of the relations can be justified, however seldom or never.
2. If the decision to tell about treason is made finally and irrevocably, approach this question tactfully. Begin a conversation with the reason which suggested a guilty idea – it can be a lack of attention, lack of mutual understanding, revenge, etc. Then smoothly pass to a key part of the problem, only do not go into details not to wound the loved one.
3. Further everything depends on your perception of a situation: if you regret for the incident – apologize, promise to consider carefully from now on the acts, otherwise – thank for time spent together and tactfully explain that you do not intend to continue the relations further.
4. To keep proximity with the guy, at the end of a conversation surely tell that you do not hurry him with decision-making. Be ready that darling will not be able to forgive treason at once, on it weeks, months and even years can be necessary. Reconcile to the fact that some time it is necessary to stay friends or not to communicate at all until the young man collects the thoughts and will solve whether he is ready to continue communication.
5. If there is not enough courage to tell about treason in private, it is possible to state thoughts on the sheet of paper or to send the message by e-mail. In this case begin the letter with why you could not admit, looking to it in eyes, otherwise the guy will have a wrong opinion that it is ignored and are not respected.