To tell the guy that between you everything is over it can be quite heavy. For certain, you would like to make it, without causing to each other pain, having kept with him good relations. Preliminary preparation is for this purpose necessary.
Do not give up hopes
If you decided to break up with the guy, you have to be extremely frank and not allow with him ambiguities. The guy should not have impression that you are not sure of the words and your decision is not final. He will hope that one day you will be together again. Let it know that between you everything is over finally, tell it that it is time for both of you to move further.
You speak only with the guy
Quite often girls share difficulties in the relations with guys with the girlfriends. If you decided to leave the guy, do not speak about it to anybody, even to the girlfriends. Rumors quickly disperse, they can reach him. It will be not really good if the guy learns about your decision the last. He will feel devastated and humiliated.
You speak confidentially
Do not report about your decision at all, using the SMS, the message on social network or by phone. Perhaps, you were with the guy long time. It will be much better if you talk to it personally and report to him about the decision looking in eyes.
Look for words
If you decided to leave the guy because of his shortcomings to which you cannot reconcile, perhaps, you do not want to speak about it directly. However you should not lie about the parting reasons too. Try to tell the truth, tell, for example, that you are different people and you do not suit one another. Tell that you do not feel communication with the guy.
Do not tighten
The conversation with the guy should not be long. What longer you will speak with him, that high probability of the fact that you will begin to sort out the relations, reconsidering your communication completely. If you really decided to break up with the guy, so you already considered everything. Tell the guy about the reasons of your parting and you leave. You take away on a conversation no more than 30 minutes.
Do not show excess emotions
Your guy can endure your decision quite strongly. It can be shown during the conversation, for example, by insults, extreme depression, etc. You behave, you do not speak with it about its feelings at this moment. If you look at it silently, then and then leave. Manifestation of emotions of you will only aggravate a situation. You will show that are not indifferent to the guy, he will have a hope for restoration of the relations.
After parting
Perhaps, after a while after parting you will feel that you want to talk to the guy. You can have a desire again to appear near it. If you consider that the decision to leave the guy was right, look for a way to leave from similar thoughts and desires. Distract, meet with friends more often, strike up new acquaintances, remove number of the ex-boyfriend from the phone.