In the serious and long relations some women want a variety and make advances to other men. Not always business is limited to innocent flirtation, sometimes reaches full treason. In this case before the adulteress there is a question – how to tell the husband about treason and whether it is worth doing it.
Instruction
1. For a start decide whether It is necessary to tellIt is necessary to tell the spouse about your mistake. If it happened to your mutual friend, it is better to tell as soon as possible that the husband learned it from you. But quite another matter, if treason happened during the travel to the unfamiliar man from other country. Maybe it is worth holding back the treachery? Honesty can destroy your relations, humiliate the spouse and destroy his world. Would you likeWould you likeWould you like it?
2. Pick up an opportunity. Such conversation has to take place in private, without strangers. Prepare water and soothing, perhaps, they will be necessary for your spouse. Choose suitable time, for example, morning of the day off that serious or complex affairs were not necessary. This day should not it is planned any meetings and important events. The man has to be well rested, full, quiet and nothing upset. Then your news will not become a last straw of his patience, and there will be an opportunity to discuss the event.
3. Suggest to sit down before a conversation. Admit treason, and try to explain the reasons of such act more softly. If before it you largely swore or you did not feel attention to yourself, report about it. But you do not say that a problem in inability of the spouse to satisfy you. Now you need to show that you regret for the incident and you want to improve the relations.
4. Allow the husband to state everything that he thinks. Ask him that the spouse spoke, abused, shouted, but did not keep everything in itself. The quicker he will splash out the emotions, the it will be simpler to experience them. Do not tell in detail about sex, do not praise highly the partner, be limited only to the general words.
5. Assure it that it was the mistake, and you awfully regret for deeds. Beg to give you a chance everything to correct, promise that it will never repeat. Assure it of the feelings and that it was minute turbidity of mind. But do not try to explain treason with alcohol. In this case every time when you drink, he will remember treason.
6. Give time that the spouse thought of the event and understood himself. If he wants to stay alone, leave to other room and you do not come to him. Wait, meanwhile he will be ready to start talking to you again.
7. Be ready that your relations will be destroyed. Not all couples are capable to close eyes to the event and to pretend that nothing was. Even if you will not disperse, former the relations will not be any more.