If the man shows you an unambiguous affection, speaks outright about the interest, but you do not perceive it as the sexual partner, then it is necessary to tell it about it. It is necessary not to make an ass of him as your silence will be accepted as encouragement. And the earlier you will make it, the better.
Instruction
1. If the offer on more close relations already arrived, then it is not necessary to lie and use any temporary reasons for refusal. Not to put the man in an idiotic situation and not to wound his self-esteem, it is better to tell at once that you do not want any sexual relations not only with it, but also in general. Explain it with recent strong passion or some nervous shock. He will understand that the reason not in it and will not take offense at you.
2. You can also tell that you are not free, having referred to darling who lives in other city. All this will be rather difficult to be checked. You can offer companionship, but, most likely, your gentleman will refuse it, respecting your feelings to another.
3. It is possible to motivate refusal with the fact that you need the serious long relations and it is necessary to get used that it will be near. The frivolous partner it can strongly frighten and force most to steer clear of you. And the one who is ready seriously needs to give itself to prove – perhaps, you will be able to make out and estimate this person over time.
4. Refer to friendly, sisterly feelings to this person if you are familiar for a long time. Explain how you highly appreciate him and as it is necessary for you its, friendly, support. The concept of friendship in the opinion of men – sacred therefore he, most likely, not only will not take offense at you, but also will try not to disappoint. If you still at the same time add that he is a wonderful person and happiness which you, alas, cannot give it deserves, then he will even be touched and grateful for so appreciation of its advantages.