There are situations when the relations with the man develop remarkably – there is both a love, and harmony, and even sex is rather quite good. Can sadden idyll only one – preliminary caress does not excite, respectively, it becomes more difficult to derive pleasure from sex and to test an unforgettable orgasm. How to hint the partner that he does something not so that not to offend him, not to push away from itself and not to destroy the relation?
What to do if the husband is insufficiently good in respect of preliminary caress
"The prelude to sex does not excite" or "I am not excited by caress of the husband" - frequent claims of girls which they share in conversations with girlfriends. But how to tell about it to the partner? Not only the frankness, but also sensitivity is important here that a similar conversation not to provoke development of men's complexes or not to cause in it a thought of your frigidity (others did not complain).
Try not to wait before the next night of love for actions from the partner, and take the initiative. If something is not pleasant (fast penetration of fingers into a vagina instead of gentle stimulation of a clitoris or dry and avaricious kisses instead of passionate kisses), put actions of the husband on the right track, accompanying them with the groans showing that to you it is madly good (better, than earlier).
If the man minimizes preliminary caress, starting sex at the first hints on lubricant, tell that you dream of erotic massage and of how there is a wish to prolong the tactile pleasure which is not limited only to sex. Create for this purpose the corresponding situation – the muffled light or candles, fragrant oils with which the man will rub you. A great option is the prelude in a bathtub with foam – warm water weakens, there is no wish to hurry anywhere, the prelude lasts by itself, giving pleasure to both partners.
What to do if the husband does not love preliminary caress?
It is one more question which women can set. And you are sure that he really does not love them? Perhaps, nobody said to him that it does something not so, and fast transition to sex – standard practice (and in the last relations, and in the presents). The way out consists in frankness again, but with a cunning pinch. It is possible not to say directly that you lack time allowed by the husband for excitement process catastrophically to be got. Instead ask darling to walk on all your erogenous zones (and they are not limited only to a clitoris or vulvar lips). Tell how you are brought by touch to a breast or the internal surface of hips, a pokusyvaniye of lobes of ears, kisses to a neck – options a set. Encourage caress of the husband with groans (the presents, without falseness or replaying) that he saw how it is easy to dement you simple touches, and repeated the actions in the future.
How to achieve from the husband of oral caress
If the husband loves oral sex, do not hesitate also of it to ask to give you pleasure in the similar way. In intimate life to complexes not the place, be not afraid to ask to stimulate a clitoris with language if it is pleasant to you – there is nothing shameful in oral preliminary caress, it is one more way to derive pleasure, to test an orgasm and to achieve harmony in all aspects of the relations, including sexual life. Many men like to give pleasure language, but often at this moment everything spoils constraint of the woman, and the partner tries to pass quicker directly to traditional sexual intercourse.
The main thing is not to keep everything in itself, and to speak with darling, to hint it that it is not pleasant you that is not enough. Do not reproach, you are not angry, do not make a claim which can provoke complexes and refusal of intimate relations. Do not wait that everything will change for the better in itself – act that the next night to make unforgettable, without complaining of what caress of the husband does not excite and does not get.