Often it is easier to tell about pregnancy to adults, than children. Being afraid of reaction of the child, adults cannot long decide to report joyful news or do not know how to make so that the child correctly apprehended future event.
Instruction
1. First of all, before telling the son about the second pregnancy, it is necessary to consider age of the firstborn. If the small child, is better to hold off an explanation, otherwise he will stay long enough waiting for something unclear, to be nervous. More correct to postpone news about pregnancy until situation becomes noticeable. When the kid already knows about the forthcoming birth, for it it is better to correlate date of birth of the brother or sister to any season. It will clear up and will save from constant questions from the child of the expected addition in family.
2. When the child is more senior and can already understand current situation, you should not hide pregnancy symptoms from him. The boy needs to explain that it happens at origin of new life, and you should not worry for health of mother. In case of quiet course of pregnancy joyful news to the child better to say in the second trimester when the threat of an abortion disappears.
3. Talking to the child, it is not necessary to mislead him promises that the baby will love the elder brother (sister) and to play with it. Most likely, your eldest son will be disappointed when he understands that he cannot do at first anything together with the kid. The senior should explain a real situation at once: the baby will be helpless, and he will be needs care and the enhanced attention of parents. But the help of the senior will be necessary too. It will allow the child will feel important, you see, to him pleasantly to realize that it will be charged to be helped with care for younger. It is important to note that with replenishment in family of the first child will not cease to love and will not change the attitude towards it.
4. Having explained to the child about appearance of the baby, it is necessary to continue to support this subject in a different talk, for example, to tell the boy about brothers and sisters in familiar families. Walking with the child, it is possible to pay attention to other children who are younger than it, letting know that small defenseless, weak and need care not only from mother and the father, but also from the elder brother or the sister.
5. The child needs to charge not too difficult household tasks that he felt like the adult, business. Let your son look after pregnant mother just as it is done by the father. Before the birth, making out the room for future kid, it will be correct to recruit the senior to exclude his jealousy. After return home from hospital the celebrating the birthday of the baby with the senior child and delivery of gifts will be a pleasant surprise. The most important is to report to the child that parents will not cease to love it and will give the love to it on an equal basis with the kid.