Your husband drinks? It is its choice. If it has a physical dependence on alcohol, high alcohol resistance and constant requirement to drink, then it one of representatives of the Russian alcoholics two million army. The alcoholic husband can create serious problems not only to society, but also that happens much more often, to be a source of violence, poverty and diseases in family. Depends only on you whether to risk itself, remaining with it, or to leave it and to return itself safe life to which you have the right.
Instruction
1. Admit the fact that you cannot force the husband to stop drinking. Many wives of alcoholics continue to live with the spouses because they feel sorry for them, understand that without their care the partner risks to fall finally. They say that alcoholism is a disease, and patients need to be helped. Their main mistake is in what they do not want to recognize – any disease it is necessary to treat and if the patient does not wish to be treated, then he does not deserve either sympathy, or support.
2. Think of how you will build the life, having left the husband. What to change? What will you lose? What will you get? Think of how your decision will influence other people, except you and your husband. On children? On your parents? On truly yours friends?
3. Think over where you will live or where you will send to live your spouse? Even if before the husband did not show tendency to violence, you all the same cannot remain with it in one territory. Pack its things or transport the.
4. Tell your husband about your decision, having chosen, whenever possible that time when he is sober. Explain to him, on examples as his alcoholism affected your life, life of your family. Do not accuse, and just give the facts. For a conversation choose the quiet public place where you will not be some, but you will be able quietly to talk. If you have bases to be afraid for the safety, choose prudence, but not nobility – leave it a note.
5. After you leave, try not to come to it into contact. Change mobile phone number or block its number in your device. Do not let it in the apartment where you live. Do not allow it "to catch" you on the street. There is a scanty probability that your leaving will be able to rouse it to refusal of alcohol, but on it time is required. Do not give it "one more chance", let he at first will make what you from it so long tried to obtain. Do not feel obliged to return if your spouse undergoes rehabilitation. The lost trust is not a thing which can be dropped, and then it is simple to lift.