If the guy with the girl really love each other, it can envy only in an amicable way. But, unfortunately, quite often happens and so that the love does not pass test time. When someone from partners sees and understands that their relations reached a deadlock, and it will be possible to revive former love hardly, it will be more reasonable to leave in an amicable way.
Instruction
1. If you met the guy not for long, this issue is resolved quite simply. Several times in a row refuse a meeting. As a rule, "reaches" the guy that you do not want development of your relations, and everything will end without excess emotions and sufferings. If he does not draw conclusions - just quietly and politely tell him by phone that he is a good person, and you have nothing against it, but came to a conclusion that it is better for you to leave.
2. Your novel lasts already long time? It is necessary to be prepared for break in relations thoroughly. First of all try to answer honestly and frankly yourself a question: whether really you want a gap whether in the business it will be easier for you if this guy disappears from your life? If the answer affirmative, do not delay parting. You should not remove an unpleasant conversation the next Monday or the next month.
3. Nevertheless, try to prepare your young man that news of a gap was not for it a bolt from the blue. Meet it less often, you do not call, do not send messages, avoid under any pretexts of tactile contacts (especially intimate proximity). The guy for certain will understand that you have to him no former feelings. Then, even if he will take offense and will become angry, it will be psychologically easier for it to listen to news of a gap.
4. Do not reproach the guy, you do not scold, do not list his mistakes and shortcomings. On the contrary, assure that hold kind in remembrance both him, and your novel.
5. If the guy begins to reproach you, to accuse, do not justify and you do not turn into counterattack. Just tell: "I understand that you are very upset, but my final decision, let's leave in an amicable way".
6. In case the young man begins to press on pity, describing as it will be bad to him without you, do not give in. Tell that he will surely find the good girl who will make him happy.
7. The best option – if the guy apprehends news of the forthcoming gap with undisguised relief. Means, he already thought of parting, but hesitated to begin the first this conversation.