Family life can exchange over time: you look at the partner and understand that it is not your person. The illusions created once long ago and not turned into reality fall. Or just you with the husband exchanged, having become strangers for each other. Presence of the general child forces you to be together, but the same question periodically emerges: how to be farther?
Instruction
1. Be honest with themselves. Tell yourself what you would make, you have no joint child? Would refresh the relations, having made reset, or left the partner and would live happily without him? Very often it is heavy to woman to leave the grown hateful family because she wants to be the ideal wife in the eyes and ideal mother for the child. To all other the condemnation of society, parents and friends is added. But think whether you are ready to sacrifice the interests and that life which you want to live, for the sake of public opinion and ideals? If you live with the husband only for the sake of the child, then over time to the growing-up child you will have many claims. You will accuse him of not died. That it is better for the child: to live among constant claims of biological parents or in family with the nonnative father, but where adults love each other?
2. Believe that you can find happiness the second time. Many women with children on hands find worthy men and marry. Take care of the own life and a figure, update clothes. Look narrowly around. Life did not end.
3. Talk to the husband. Try to solve everything amicably. Remember that a gap – it is very painful for both parties. You spare feelings of that with whom you long were together. Try to resolve peacefully an issue of that with whom there will be a child after the divorce. If the relations ended, and you do not want to renew them, then it is necessary softly, but clearly to say about it. Your fluctuations and doubts can raise hope for resumption of family life in the partner. Therefore be strong in spirit: time was solved, so so best of all for you. Try to remain in good relations and to be allies in questions of the solution of children's problems.
4. Whether to allow the spouse to meet after the divorce the child (if the child remains with you) – a reason for joint discussion. Anyway the father under the law has full authority to see the child, to participate in his life and to contain financially. You can conclude with the former spouse Soglasheniye about his rights and duties concerning the child where alimony also registers. If the father has negative effect on the kid, then the rights of this parent for participation in education can be limited through court. In this case be ready to provide to the judge of the proof. Also the opinion of the child is in this situation considered if he is more than ten years old. Whether to deprive of the spouse of the fatherly rights legally, to solve to you and court. If your spouse the adequate person and you have good relations, then thoughts such at you can not arise. And if the relations with the former spouse hostile, keep in mind that at preservation at it the fatherly rights, you should coordinate a lot of things concerning the child with it. For example, to take out the kid abroad, the written permission of the father will be required.
5. If parents cannot come to a consensus about that with whom there is a child, then the matter is resolved by court with participation of tutorship and guardianship authority. By consideration of similar affairs the degree of affection of the kid for the father and mother and also a possibility of creation of normal conditions for life and education of the kid by the parent with whom there is a child are considered.