They say that in this world each person has the half, but, unfortunately, not all can find it. Such happy women who met the man of the dream from the first and at once started a strong family, it is a little. Quite often after several years of joint life the woman understands that there is no love. And if she wants to find that only and real with whom it is ready to pass the way to the end, it is necessary to break off the relations with the former husband. And it is absolutely hard.
Instruction
1. Before leaving the husband, be convinced that you had to him no warm feelings. Perhaps, you also do not realize that you love him, and now just were tired of routine, boring life and want some changes. Try to present the life without him. Whether you will be happy? Perhaps, for a start you should try some time to live separately. You will have a rest, will bring order to the soul and already then define, whether you should throw the husband.
2. If after such check it became clear to you that it is necessary to say goodbye, do not delay an explanation for later, whenever there was a gap, it will be sick. Do not waste time.
3. Be ready that, perhaps, people around will not understand you and friends will condemn. You will not be able to explain or justify youselves them nothing, especially if your husband – an example of purity and decency. But all this will pass. Remember that it is your life and your search of happiness what you have full authority to.
4. To break off the relations more softly, try to move away from the husband gradually. Go about career and the own business, more often be in business trips, you nullify intimate relations and also kisses, touches, etc. If the husband is not in love with you too, then this tactics can work. But be ready also that your husband will blaze to you with bigger passion.
5. In that case with it not to do you without straight talk. Firmly announce the decision, but it is delicate also with detailed explanations of the act. Be correct and say that you regret for your gap. It is not necessary to show to the person who, maybe, treats you with love, the joy or simplification.
6. Try to remain quiet. It is not necessary to fall before scandals, hysterics and showdowns, you decided to leave the husband, but not to reconcile with him. Charges in this case just do not make sense.
7. If after your words about need to leave the husband tells nothing and does not react to your words in any way, do not demand from him the immediate answer. In general do not touch it – give time to the person to calm down. Apologize, and all.
8. When the husband says that he does not represent the life without you, let it know that all of you equally do not change the decision. It is not necessary to console him and to crawfish, from this nothing good will leave.
9. Perhaps, the husband himself will begin to accuse you of all sins and will tell you many unpleasant words. Too be ready to it. But you do not hurry to get with it into an argument – it does not make sense.
10. The easiest, though option, very unpleasant for you, – when you will see that the husband was obviously delighted to your decision. Swallow the insult and rejoice to the fact that managed to throw its the first.
11. Try to suggest the husband to remain friends. It is unlikely he will meet your words with enthusiasm, it will be sore to it to communicate with you, especially at first. You do not force an event.