Treason – it is intolerably sick, offensive, disgusting and it is annoying. And for someone – "It's all right. The main thing that home came, brought salary and loves children". Some believe that the extramarital affair is strengthened by marriage and if to be exact, gives heat to the relations, again kindles jealousy and passion. But in both cases, in your bed the third character – the competitor, the mistress, fleeting hobby appears if it is possible so to speak. Agree, pleasant it is not enough here. Having learned that you are changed by the husband, you do not hurry to beat him with a rolling pin and to throw out things from the 10th floor, it of course is amusing, but treat business seriously.
Instruction
1. You convicted darling of incorrectness. Burst into tears, start shouting, break something. But! The spouse of it should not see. Exhaust, let delusion and rage will fall down. If not to relieve the tension, can bring the matter to a trouble.
2. Now it is necessary to learn with whom it changes you. Whether long ago at it the affair with the competitor whether fleeting this hobby, sex for one night or the close girlfriend managed "played on you a dirty trick". Who this girl, how old is she, than is engaged as they got acquainted. Collection of information – a thing unpleasant, however it will help to understand better the reason of treason and force of the arisen communication between your husband and a certain person.
3. You know who she is. Proceeding from "file" of this razluchnitsa, draw conclusions: the spouse gave a weak point and fell to the beauty's legs whether "parted" your elect, maybe, it is the noncommittal relations. The most bitter will be to learn that the novel lasts long, and the end to it is not expected. It means that your man is in love with other girl.
4. Take a hard step. Tell that you know the truth. Tell not only the husband, but also his mistress, let she for a while will put the tail between the legs. To you lay - it is the reason for which you are angry, your feelings were betrayed - it is the reason of your aggression, you were exchanged – this reason which exhausts on the bottom and presses down a stone that there were no forces to rise. Demand an explanation and answers to all your questions. Listen to the person quietly.
5. If the husband changes for the reason that loves another, but does not leave pity to you – release and strike a kick for acceleration. It is not necessary to feel sorry for you, you the beautiful, incomparable, charming, strong woman. If he did not estimate it - it is not your prince. If the jammed life and "a cool in the bedroom" was the reason, but he does not hurry to leave at the same time. There is a question: "And you wish continuation of this union now?". Of situations which are called "on the drunk head – I am not guilty", to solve to you, to execute or pardon.
6. Forgive the spouse. You reconcile or will run up - does not play a role, just forgive the person. All can be mistaken. Someone learns from this a lesson and regrets for deeds, and someone considers it self-evident. You need to understand that treason is already made, action ended, a curtain. Release a negative and bad thoughts. Saying: "I will never forgive you!", you will never forget that initial pain which wounded you.
7. And now make the decision. The first option is to save family, to improve the relations, to begin anew. The second – to get divorced. To try to keep marriage for the sake of children, for the sake of itself it is possible only in that situation when to treason there is a justification. Otherwise you only izmuchat yourself and relatives.