When the person learns about treason of the spouse, it seems to him that the whole world falls directly upon his head. Treachery of the partner is always taken very painfully. And the main task for this purpose who was betrayed (and often and the one who betrayed), becomes to get with the smallest losses out of this situation.
Instruction
1. Try to cope with emotions. Under their influence it is possible to do many troubles. Often those who learn about treason of darling begin to beat ware, to heat a grief in alcohol, try to repay it in kind. The first is fraught with material inputs. Alcoholism can bring to alcoholism and delirium tremens. And attempt to change to punish the guilty person, – it is disgusting and unfair to the innocent third person. To whom whom offended chose to himself as the new partner. However to keep emotions in itself too it is fraught. Find a way without serious consequences for yourself and surrounding to exhaust. Go, for example, to gym. Or cry. Or try to commit in any form all the emotions to paper. It is a lot of masterpieces of literature and painting it was created under the influence of strong feelings. Of course, if there is an opportunity, address the psychologist. The expert will help to cope with destructive emotions and will put them on the right track.
2. Sort out a situation. Find the answer to the question "Why It Changed?". You do not hurry to accuse anybody. Perhaps, treason was accidental (drank on an office party much, consciousness and other grew dim). Try to understand whether treason a mistake or your spouse – the terry ladies' man who all will make the life miserable your marriage by the acts was.
3. Decide what you will do, and having solved – do. If you came to a conclusion that treason is accidental and the partner sincerely regrets, together think of how you will live further. If you came to a conclusion that your man also will hurt you unfaithfulness from now on, or just decided to stop the relations with the traitor, then leave. But leave so that not to have an opportunity to return. The most important when the wound from a gap and treachery is still fresh not to indulge in distinguished masochism, to listen "to yours with it" songs, examining joint photos. Induce themselves to do clear-out of the house, go to a meeting with girlfriends, to fitness club. Continue to live, trying not to think of "former", not to give it the vital energy.