Often our emotional "baggage" taken from the previous relations which ended with deception and treachery "pulls on a bottom" the relations today's. We do not trust darling not because he once gave to us a reason for doubts but because the wounds given to us once still hurt. But unless you are able to allow your past to destroy your future? Without trust there is no proximity, without proximity there is no true love also.
It is required to you
- Patience
- Understanding
- Time
Instruction
1. Recognize that your present darling has no relation to your past. He should not be responsible for the evil which is once caused to you. Even, if you think "all of them are identical", you understand that it not and all people different. Give darling a chance, to prove that it is another.
2. Do not accuse the beloved of what he did not make yet. If your partner is on friendly terms with any woman, late returned, forgot to call, it is yet not an occasion to hurry with conclusions and at once to accuse him of deception. Very few people are ready to live with the jealous and suspicious person all the time and if your darling even did not think to betray you, then your constants charges and attacks can force him just to break off the relations. If you love someone whether you are ready to lose him because of groundless suspicions?
3. Listen to the fact that your darling speaks about other people. If he gives you the intimate secrets of the friends if he derides the last girlfriends if he badly speaks of them if he is capable to tell to people in eyes one, and then, behind the back, to throw at someone mud, then he is a person not decent and it it is much bigger, than fifteen-minute delay from work. If he on the contrary looks for merits in people, with warmth speaks of "former", is capable to keep the secrets of friends, then he is credible.
4. Be honest with your partner. If you honestly tell him about the experiences, he has an opportunity to reckon with them and by that to show how it concerns you. If you hide a lot of things from it, he is not capable to see you real and to give you that feeling of safety and confidence which you so need.
5. Recognize that the personal space is necessary for all of us. You should not divide all hobbies of each other and spend all the time only together. Agree that to you is about what to chat confidentially with the girlfriend and these subjects not always for male ears, so why your darling can have no need to discuss something with the friend without you? When someone feels that he is constantly controlled and "lead in a string" he, often or revolts in opened or really begins to hide something to avoid problems. If you constantly do not trust the one who is credible, then this someone can meet your worst expectations only because you so from him wait for it.