Many parents dream to become the child not just mother or the father, and the true friend. The friend is a person who respects you, to whom it is possible to talk as equals, to share all the problems. And he will never condemn you and will always come to the rescue. Parents can take steps becoming the child the good friend.
You spend time together. Children need parents not only in infancy, but also at more advanced age. Try to play and walk more together with children. Of course work and domshny affairs no who cancelled but the not less you can spend time maximum with children. For example, returning from walk, together make a lunch or tide up, and in the course of it you share with each other news and problems. Joint affairs very much bring together. If children see that their life is interesting to parents, they every day get support and trust of the Main thing never tell more and more secrets and the child's problems which he shared with you, to other people, even to relatives if the kid wants he it will tell.
Show your trust. If the child sees that adults do not trust him, he will take offense, will become isolated and will begin to lie. But in the return case he feels responsibility and tries to reciprocate. Tell it the small secrets, you learn to keep secrets. Prepare together a gift, for someone from relatives and its spryachta, it will be your general secret.
Do not refuse communication. If the child wants to talk to you put aside even the most important issues. The kid has to be sure that parents are ready to listen to him at any time. Perhaps it was difficult for it to decide on this conversation, and in other time of a conversation it will not turn out any more. And let at first children discuss, even not considerable as it seems to you, problems, but over time when grow up, they will ask you all questions.
Do not condemn. It does not mean that the child needs to let all. You can condemn an act, but not the personality at all. The child has to understand that not he bad, and his act. To let know to the child that parents were upset by his behavior, and next time it is necessary to arrive on another.
Reason the bans. To allow the child literally everything, of course it is impossible. It is necessary to refuse something, to forbid something. But never forget to reason the refusal. The child has to understand that it is not a whim of parents, and to all there is a reason.
Consult on children. Resolve all all-family issues together with children. It is very important to child to know that his opinion is significant in family too.