When choosing the partner in life terribly happens to be mistaken. It is possible not to notice very good, but modest person and to be fond of handsome with the indistinct moral principles. It is important to understand that ideal people are not – everyone has some shortcomings. You need to solve with what qualities of the elect you are ready to be reconciled and what you consider unacceptable.
1. It is possible to allocate three models of the relations between the man and the woman: - "the brother and the sister" – equal partnership; - "mother and the son" - the woman directs, the man submits; - "the father and the daughter" – directs the man, the woman submits.
2. Think, as usual there are your relations with guys and what you play a role. If you like to order and keep the partner down, hardly the union with the cool macho will be happy even if the guy is beautiful, popular and to you girlfriends envy. Someone should change – to you or it. Solve whether both of you are ready to such changes and whether you will be happy, having crossed through themselves.
3. If you consider that the man has to be the head of the family, with the real macho of disagreements about it will not appear.
4. Try to estimate the guy's attitude towards you soberly. Pay attention as far as he is obligatory – whether holds promises whether is late for appointments. Irresponsibility – a shortcoming which can destroy any relations.
5. If the guy has habits unpleasant to you whether he is ready to refuse them? Desire to be pleasant to you and to sacrifice something for the sake of love – very important quality.
6. Pay attention to the guy's relation to binge. Its any advantages will not be able to compensate horrors of life with the alcoholic. Actually, and there will be no advantage left any because this defect leads to full degradation of the personality.
7. Perhaps, you feel that the guy to you not rovnya – is not so educated, provintsialen or is not too rich. Look whether he is ready to develop – to study, to work hard, increase cultural level. If yes, your love can become a good incentive and you are waited by the happy future.
8. It is very important how the guy speaks of the former girlfriends. If he says about them scurrilous things, accuses of all sins and reveals their intimate secrets, can not doubt – sooner or later he will tell the same also about you.
9. Look narrowly at how the guy treats relatives and friends. Whether he is ready to offer something for the loved one and whether, at the same time, he is able to argue the point of view if it is confident in correctness? It is unlikely you need as the partner in life the stale egoist or spineless type ready to concede to any pressure.
10. But, perhaps, the most important condition for family happiness – mutual understanding and common interests. If you are active and mobile, go to exhibitions and concerts, and the guy prefers everything soccer on TV and beer, the conflicts in the future are almost inevitable. Peaceful and happy life will be possible in case both of you are ready to allow another to have a rest to its taste, without trying to change the partner after the own fashion.