It is quite easy to distinguish love of the man when he is free, constrains nothing it. But if it has a wife, then the behavior will be more reserved, careful. How to learn that it are pleasant to the married man, read below.
Signs that the married man fell in love
The married man can long and carefully hide the feelings, especially, if he fallen in love the married woman. However if attentively to observe him, then language of a body and gestures can determine by its manner to communicate, much more, than he is capable to put into words.
Communication
The interested man will look for reasons for communication. In a conversation he is always polite, often jokes inattentively, sometimes considerably is nervous. At a meeting never forgets to mention your appeal. Gives compliments concerning a make-up, a dress, a hairstyle.
Important! At heart the men are laconic, but before the pleasant woman sing solovyyom. The more he speaks, the stronger is nervous, trying to hide it.
Behavior of the man
How the man behaves, can tell a lot of things about his attitude towards you. The first sign of love is the restraint. The man is afraid of the feelings, at the same time feels fault before the wife. Earlier, being in one company with you, he joked and communicated openly, and now is silent and looks at you a lingering penetrating glance, so far, more and more as it seems to it, nobody sees.
Being in natural psychological state, the man does not realize, how exactly he carries out communication with the women surrounding it. Being a lover, he tries to hide the feelings, giving that himself because it looks unnaturally. Special attention from its party — also a signal of feelings. The man in love focuses on trifles and does not miss uniform precious second to appear with an adoration object alone. For example, if it is your employee, he will not forget to bring since morning to you coffee or to offer the help under repair of any breakage. He will surely suggest to throw to the house.
If it is the girlfriend's husband, then at any opportunity, he will try to accompany you on kitchen or to other room in the house. The man in love kind of tries to toady to seem that he is better, than is actually. At this time he can strike up not remarkable conversation, try to touch accidentally your hand or to stand as it is possible closer.
Whether you know? Than more widely the man puts legs, especially he is self-assured — especially this confidence is noticeable in public transport when males occupy 2–3 sitting at once. By the way, in this regard the authorities of Madrid in 2017 officially adopted the law prohibiting to men to put legs too widely in transport not to disturb other passengers.
At some point he is frightened the actions and sharply departs from you, apologizing, but in eyes the spark is noticeable. In addition, he will look for occasions to meet. Most likely, these meetings will be veiled under the general parties in a circle of mutual friends. So he also can invite you, and not to cause suspicion in the wife.
The following sign of sympathy — intervention in your life. To it your problems are not indifferent. He will surely try to help and penetrate into a key part of the problem. Can even attract for this purpose mutual friends that the initiative proceeded kind of not from him personally. But in other situations the man behaves cautiously.
He purposely will speak indifferently about you to the wife, perhaps, will even try to expose in bad light, trying to distract her special attention in return. In the general company will try to behave otstranyonno as though you do not exist. Jealousy — one more sign of love of the married man. He will surely show the discontent if near you suddenly there is other male. As soon as the man understands that you too to him show sympathy, he will try to improve trusting relationship.
Learn about manifestation of men's jealousy.
Most often it begins with complaints to how badly there are relations at it in family, descriptions of shortcomings of the wife plus the comparative analysis of your pluses at the same moment. The man in love will try to make pleasantly to an adoration object. It can be lovely small surprises, cards with hearts or grandiose gifts. Everything depends on a financial condition and scope of feelings of the man.
Language of a body and gestures
The married man can hide very skillfully the feelings and even not show almost any behavioural signs, but here language of a body will tell precisely about its attitude towards you. Tell the following gestures and gestures about attachment of the man:
- Communicating with you, tries to deploy the case in your party. If it stands nearby, one his leg kind of will involuntarily last in your party.
- At a conversation it constantly concentrates on your lips.
- At communication looks for an opportunity to touch you, to take friendly for a shoulder, to touch a hand and so forth.
- Talking to you, he often does up hair, kind of combing them back. So he instinctively entices you, trying to point to the appeal.
- Near you he breathes often, and him usually the dead-pan accepts pleasant lines.
- Lips of the man in love continually blur in a smile, even at the thought of the passion.
- The timbre of a voice and intonation also change at a conversation with you — notes become more gentle, inviting, he purrs as if a cat.
- He tries to straighten shoulders and to stick out a breast to seem to more courageous.
- Active gesticulation by hands indicates that he wants to draw your attention with the entertaining story.
Courtesies from the man
At the initial stage the man just smiles to you at a meeting, politely nods, holds a door. When he grows bolder, courtesies become more obvious. He tries to start with you conversations on global subjects, to advise, consult about affairs. Tries to catch sight more often to you, looks for the moment to take you home. Gifts become the next stage. If the man makes gifts, so expresses the intentions in opened and waits for response.
Important! The woman it is impossible violently to force to accept or reject courtings of the married man. If it is the chief declining to the relations threats, then it is necessary to address to relevant authorities or to leave, but not to give in on blackmail.
How to understand intentions of the married man
The easiest way is to ask directly the man about his feelings and intentions in relation to you. It is better to make it personally, but not online or in SMS correspondences. Less occasions will be to compromise. Attempts find out this information hints can't be crowned in general with success as men seldom understand similar tricks.
Whether it is necessary to build the relations with the married man
Whether to build the relations with the married man, depends in many respects on the purposes which to herself are set by the woman, and abilities of the specific man to play a crucial role in achievement of these purposes. Besides, it is necessary to consider the factors pushing people to such relations. If to consider such relations as noncommittal, on the one hand, it is very favorable to the woman. She receives already well-groomed, working option of "male" which brings it only pleasure. It is not necessary to clean after it, he does not live with it constantly, it does not need to make a breakfast, a lunch and a dinner. She lives for herself, it for herself. But at some point the woman all the same comes that something bigger begins to be required for her, than just satisfaction of sexual requirements.
On the other hand, the thirst for the married man speaks about some "lameness" of inner world of the mistress, and it you will become. It turns out that at the woman the self-assessment is underestimated, in a foreshortening of the changeable partner it is possible to consider any free man, and it has enough of that which will not be able to be given without the rest to it. The married man unambiguously will not throw out all truth about the mistress to the wife at once, and it is possible, will never tell.
Read also about the relations with the married man.
The man gets an extramarital affair for several reasons:
- the love with the wife broke against a family life;
- it has a crisis of middle age;
- he wants thrills;
- he tries to ego-trip;
- the wife is absolutely far from what is necessary for the husband, and does not try to correct a situation.
It should be taken into account that the married man will always feel fault before the wife, with it he is connected by years of joint life, perhaps, the child and goodness knows what still (perhaps, even the business issued on it). He always accurately realizes that he carries out treachery, respectively, the house will try to wash away guilt.
He will try to be more affable with the wife and will begin to carry out all her whims. Perhaps, will even put into practice everything that managed to learn with the mistress in a bed. Anyway, such communication does it closer to the wife in the intimate plan (not to confuse with sexual). The biggest delusion of the woman becoming by the third side of a triangle is a sincere belief in the exclusiveness. All people are equal and as the husband left to the mistress this marriage, so in it and will return, or will leave the following marriage to the new mistress. It is important to understand only one — when the spouse suits everything in marriage, he feels comfortable physically and psychologically, is not pathologically dependent on sex (there is also it), it is impossible to pull out it from a warm nest under the name "marriage".
It will be interesting to you to learn whether it is worth taking away the married man from family.
The fact of leaving of the husband family is not influenced by other woman, let it though in the days without a break naked before it go. Finally to decide whether it is worth becoming the third side of a triangle, it is necessary to sum up the result. He will help to understand who in these relations remains in a prize really. The woman begins to limit herself in time, i.e. instead of walk with friends, she waits for a meeting which can break at any time.
At the same time she is obliged to adapt to the married man, it is necessary to keep a secret and to be content with visits convenient to it. She spends time which not to return, resources of the body and soul. As a result of its the future becomes more and more uncertain. In the end result the mistress receives:
- the remains of attention remaining later families;
- diffidence;
- loneliness for holidays, darling carries out them together with family;
- gifts, perhaps, improvement of a financial state;
- almost total absence of private life, except for rare sex.
The picture for the woman appears not really perspective. In turn, the lover settles very not badly in such triangle:
- it is satisfied sexually and emotionally;
- it has a full-fledged family, so, he does not need to think how to realize itself in this plan;
- if something is not got on at home, he can come and receive a discharge at the mistress;
- it is covered on all backs;
- his old age will end in a circle of the loving people.
Whether you know? Testosterone slows down work of some sites of a brain. It explains the fact that guys often consider unfamiliar girls very fixedly, as soon as they vanish from a field of vision, the male brain immediately forgets them.
The lover gives to such relations in comparison with the woman, real particles of the time, attention and money. To claim what to build with the married man of the relation wrong, silly, nobody will begin to listen, especially, when he breaks the head from passion. But the woman has to realize accurately what she subscribes to.
As it is correct to build the relations
If to go on such step, then the woman should build up the relationship correctly always to have ways of withdrawal, but not to remain eternally on a supporting part.
What is possible and it is necessary to do
That the relations with married brought benefit personally to you, listen to yourself. Think of that why to you such relations and why you are pleasant to have the second after the legal wife. On such reflections there will be a lot of time between meetings with the lover. Always support yourself in an appropriate look. Try to live as it is pleasant to you. The lover who already has family cannot dictate to you the terms. Enjoy life to the full. It gives you expensive gifts — accept, you are worth it. Remember that the man will receive from these relations unambiguously more, and he purposefully uses two women in the purposes. Try to hide the relations with it as it is possible more carefully. It will save you from excess condemnation.
What you should not do
Several rules which will help to keep a tight rein on foreign husband and not to allow it to make themselves the concubine who does not have the rights:
- Do not perceive it as potential husband. Derive pleasure from proximity.
- Do not wait for it — you have important issues too. Let it gets out as wants the house.
- If you are jealous, then a role of the mistress obviously not for you: it is silly — to get the relations with married, and then to raise a claim to it and to be jealous of the wife. At the first concert of jealousy the lover will run away from you.
- Be not a saving circle or a vest for tears — you want to have a good time with the man and to relax, so be engaged in it, but do not turn into his personal family psychologist who is listening to complaints, moaning and wiping up snivels.
- Do not try to declare the existence to the legal wife — the man has to take this step or not make in general. Anyway the similar act from the mistress puts her in the opinion of the man in a rank of the traitors who did not allow to make the decision independently and destroyed that in his life it was adjusted as the conveyor.
- Be not obsessed with these relations — look for an emotional outlet for a while when it is absent nearby. Do not refuse walks, new acquaintances, trips to travel, you not the wife, so, you have the right to do that will take in head.
Whether you know? The husbands happy in marriage who are completely satisfied with the status and not looking for an extramarital affair are inclined to a set of excess weight. So folds instead of a press is not laziness of the husband, but the fact proving his fidelity.
Not always there are forces to constrain the passion and to refuse the relations with the married man who obviously shows courtesies. If to go on such step, then to receive a maximum from the relations, and then to leave to build the full-fledged life.