Whatever relations developed in family, perfectly aspiration to mutual understanding. Unfortunately, people grow and realize the values not at the same time. Therefore someone has to fall ""victim"", the first to meet requirements of another and to suffer until that grows soul to the level of mutual love. Such sacrificial, unconditional love bears fruits, but it is necessary to arrive wisely not to fall under an excessive burden.
Instruction
1. Be adjusted on a victory. You have to know why to you the kind relations with relatives. Many stop communicating and do not see each other for years. It is fine that you have other aspirations. But you have to understand the meaning of sufferings what it matters for you. Write down these thoughts in the diary, they will support you at the difficult moments.
2. Show care of the family. It can be the simplest things. Arrange a family lunch, let all will gather at a nonalcoholic table. Make it spontaneously, without any occasion. Tell that you wish to see it a good family tradition. Let people know that for you the family is value. Find other ways of manifestation of care. Buy fruit and bring to relatives. Present them tickets for a concert. Let know that someone cares for them. It is a mutual understanding basis.
3. Ask for the family of the help. It is not obligatory to load them over forces, let will make something simple. It is important to accustom them not only to use your care, but also to make a contribution to creation of family. Do it correctly. You thank for the help, do not perceive as due.
4. Repeat from the 1st step. Accustom to care of. Accustom the family that there are you. It is not thrift who how many good deeds made. Just there should not be a situation when one person drags on himself all. Joint work has to be norm. The help each other has to become tradition.