Disagreements in family are a commonplace, it happens often. But one — when spouses argue, but at the same time listen and understand each other, and another — when during the quarrel none of them want to make a compromise. The last case threatens family breakdown therefore it is necessary to take measures urgently. And first of all it should be made to the woman — the keeper of the center. How to understand the husband when it seems that he behaves not as has to?
Instruction
1. Think and who needs what you ask from the husband? For example, you are not happy that he cannot long bring the TV to giving your mother and all the time looks for different excuses. And now ask yourself a question to whom it is necessary — to it or your mother? If your husband on a visit at the mother-in-law feels freely and easily, he likes to happen and communicate with her there, then for certain such problem simply would not arise. When in each situation you wonder, "and in whose it interests", you, at last, will begin to understand the husband and motivation of his acts.
2. Stop to take offense at the husband, think better how to make so that he had a desire most to satisfy your request, i.e. it became "in its interests". Perhaps you will promise it something pleasant or will create special conditions of the process of performance.
3. Learn to concede and make a compromise. After all, the relations between spouses have to be based not on the principle "who to whom what has to and is obliged", and on sense of responsibility for the family. It is very important to be able to meet requirements of the husband. But only not to accuse him that he does not understand you and does not meet requirements of you it will not lead to anything. You need to begin with yourself, to take a situation in hand and on own example, on own acts to show how has to be.
4. Find in yourself courage to accept one of decisions: to leave or remain. Anyway, and situations happens different, and sometimes all attempts to understand the husband break against a wall of his egoism and cruelty. Then it is necessary to take the sheet of paper and to write out in two columns of the reason of to leave also to remain. If comparison of columns appears not in favor of preservation of family, it is necessary to find forces and to make the decision to leave. If there are more reasons to be near the husband, then do not stop the trying to understand him and to accept it what he is.