Men and women - beings from different planets, - such statement, probably, everyone can confirm with an example from own life. In particular, men and women communicate and state the thoughts absolutely differently. It is easier for woman to feel this distinction if, of course, she developed an intuition and is at least a little worldly wisdom. If the woman learns to understand correctly the words of the man, it will help her with creation of the strong relations. But how to learn it?
Instruction
1. You remember: men like to speak directly, accurately, on business. They much less than women, use in the speech metaphors, comparisons, tropes. If the man tells about something, so it for him really important. It is not lovely chatter of the girlfriend, it is a number of concrete and accurate thoughts to which the woman should not ""turn"" a deaf ear.
2. Do not demand from the man of constant compliments or recognitions. The man has to tell it when he wants. Let it, in your opinion, will not be frequent at all, but is sincere. If the man himself, without coercion, pronounces words expensive to your heart, it can be trusted.
3. Women need from time to time ""to unburden the heart"". The man has to understand it and, really, to be able to listen, support, tell something encouraging. But it does not mean at all that men have the same requirement. Psychologists claim that the man in a stressful situation (for example, at work) is inclined to retire into oneself, and not to ring round fellow acquaintances at all and not to be cried on shoulder the beloved. Sooner or later he will surely share the problem, but it is impossible to force him to do it. You have to let know that you nearby also are at any time ready to listen to him, but try not to ask infinite questions: ""What happened? Why you have a bad mood? Perhaps you already at last will tell, what has happened?"" the woman often perceives Silence of the man as SOS signal, as prevention that the relations fall. Actually the man at these moments can think absolutely of other problems, and he needs your tactful, unostentatious support. Without excess questions and showdowns.
4. Women very much like to dream, talk about what will be. Even if the woman guesses that her dream is not fated to come true, it is just pleasant to it to talk about it. This line quite often irritates men. They is more realistic look at life. And it concerns even men who at first sight seem mad romantics and dreamers. Just it is pleasant to you to talk, and the man perceives it as a concrete call to action. It is good if you have a few desires. And if the woman also lives only future? It creates very intense background for the man. He understands that it is always necessary to be in the movement, to undertake something, somewhere to hurry though he just wants at least to relax and stay sometimes only in this moment with the beloved. If the woman at least sometimes gives to the man such feeling of serene rest, it is very valuable.
5. ""You learn to hear and listen"", - banal council, but performance of these conditions yields amazing results. You look first of all at yourself, at the mistakes and try to correct them. If the man sees good changes in the beloved, he, is imperceptible for itself, ""is brought up"" behind her and itself changes for the better.