Even the loved one can seem a being from other planet if he is a man. The misunderstanding dividing the weaker and stronger sex at times seems insuperable. However you should not blame for it only men. Perhaps, it is not a lack of their eloquence, and in what women incorrectly listen to.
Instruction
1. Estimate the words of the man reason, but not feelings. In other words, ponder "that" he tells, but not "as". Women perceive the world intuitively and describing people and events, speak first of all about the experienced emotions, bright experiences. Do not wait for it from men. They can build logically the message, to prove the opinion, to explain the reasons and to give examples. Having concentrated all attention to contents of the speech, the interlocutor can neglect a form why his words will sound chilly and inexpressively that does not express negative opinion personally on you at all.
2. You ask to give an example. What occurs in the head of other people - a riddle. And we can guess it only on indirect signs and signs, trying to try a key to others views. Do not hesitate to ask again if the speech of the man seems foggy. Ask direct questions that in the told phrase it seemed not clear. Questions gradually and "from far away" can lead to the fact that the point of a conversation will escape both of you. Men think specifically therefore all is simpler to explain to them on a vital example.
3. Analyze not only words, but also acts. Not all men can or find it necessary to express the feelings or desires in plain terms. Always pay attention when the behavior of the man changes. Unexpected praises to your culinary art at dinner or for the first time the shirt which is accurately put away in a case can mean that "excuse" for which you wait week after the unpleasant quarrel.
4. You learn to hear other people. Think how often there is a misunderstanding between you and your friends, fellow workers. To listen and hear - different abilities. Not all people have them equally. If during the conversation you constantly wait in line to start talking or think over the following witty phrase in the head, your interlocutor has no chances to be a witness.
5. If you doubt that you correctly understand the man and hesitate to ask explanations for him, address other man well familiar. The father, the brother, the husband or the school friend will help to understand better what was meant by your mysterious friend.