Differently there is family life at the people surrounding us: someone lives in clover, at all without thinking of household problems, and someone on the contrary - everything dramatizes and complains on trifles. There are no standard situations, but something the general as the classic spoke, is traced in unhappy families.
Standard situation: the married couple gets divorced and if to listen to both parties, then it turns out that both some monsters. According to the wife, he is a careless husband, the henpecked, mother's darling who lives as in hotel of the house and in general ""from it shakes me directly"". According to the husband, she is a loud hysterical woman, the bad hostess, the silly gossip, the boor and the mercenary predator.
Learned? We hear it pretty often from people who chose each other at own will. They were not married off, were not under anesthetic or in delirium. They made the choice, lived side by side some time and suddenly... The fact is that ""suddenly"" does not happen. We notice all these negative qualities in the halves after the first months of joint life.
Does not happen so that the lovely, house, intelligent girl went to bed, and the mercenary, capricious hysterical woman woke up. The fact is that till some time we just do not want all this to notice. There is a reasonable question: why we suffer? Life you will not call life with such negative character love, and here own inertness, conformism and usual self-interest explains a lot of things. Here the girl married out of great love, in a year the love ceased a little, gray everyday life, work-house-work began. The woman wants a holiday and to spit that hotly beloved husband is broken off at two works and home comes crawling on an automatic pilot! She so wants also a point. And she wants it because the girl should want! At her girlfriends everything is smooth: both prosperity, and the husband with flowers atilt each day off, and the mother-in-law in general got - an angel. Girlfriends are given expensive gifts, to spit that sometimes their husbands let loose hands, but the ringlet after such scolding is provided. Also our girl begins to be angry with the whole world and to complain of the bitter destiny villain which dragged it in this trap. The girl accuses the whole world of the troubles, periodically makes grandiose rows and secretly dreaming of a fur coat and rest abroad (all already on three times went, one she at the dacha sits). And what is done at this time by the husband? Every day he comes later not to run into the next scandal, nearly an every day hangs with friends because in their society he feels free as earlier. Result: two hating each other unfortunate the person and two broken lives. If couple lived with each other longer, would manage to get used till a marriage and better they would not hurry to know everything that waits for them, then so in the REGISTRY OFFICE. When you accept strong desire to cast in the lot, take the responsibility the friend for the friend, try to pronounce disputable situations and if time to run up came, you should not humiliate so yourself and the partner, though former.